Bridal party help

DiamondLil71 · May 2011

Do I have to ask my fiance's sister to stand up in my bridal party?

crash2729 · May 2011

Not if you don't want to.

It's a nice gesture since she will be in your life forever. But who stands up on your side is your choice, she can always stand up on your FI's side if he wants her in the WP.

jaycee7389 · May 2011

No, but it would be nice if you did..especially if he only has one sister.

mica178 · May 2011

No, you don't have to, but if you're having a large wedding party and it's a tradition in your FI's family, I probably would. My SIL has been a BM in all of her brothers' weddings. If you don't want to ask her, maybe she could stand on your FI's side?

em01092 · May 2011

How close are you with her? How close is she with your FI? How many sisters does he have?

Consider these things before you ask. You don't HAVE to. I would pick those closest to me. If she is one of them, go for it. You may also face some crap from your FMIL if you don't, but you will probably get some of that regarding something wedding related, no matter what. If you do not like her or you do not get along and you've tried working things out with no luck, I wouldn't. You will probably just get annoyed with her or may come to feel like she is trying to sabotage you. Also, if he has several sisters, I wouldn't. You have to pick all or none, really.

Your FI could also ask her to stand on his side as a GW, that way she is included in the WP but not standing up for you if you guys are not that close.

ootmother2 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-party-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:74de9e5c-7f88-412e-97b2-3bbd169add8aPost:704436b8-bdbc-40c3-bd0d-36f6fd857be6">Re: Bridal party help</a>:
[QUOTE]How close are you with her? How close is she with your FI? How many sisters does he have? Consider these things before you ask. You don't HAVE to. I would pick those closest to me. If she is one of them, go for it. You may also face some crap from your FMIL if you don't, but you will probably get some of that regarding something wedding related, no matter what. If you do not like her or you do not get along and you've tried working things out with no luck, I wouldn't. You will probably just get annoyed with her or may come to feel like she is trying to sabotage you. Also, if he has several sisters, I wouldn't. You have to pick all or none, really. Your FI could also ask her to stand on his side as a GW, that way she is included in the WP but not standing up for you if you guys are not that close.
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]

emo has it down pat!

musicxstore · May 2011

I would love to ask my FSIL, but I'm not very fond of her. In fact, I may not even ask my own sister. At the end of the day, it's your choice - just don't feel obligated to ask her.

DramaGeek · May 2011

I answered you on Customs and Traditions. To make it easier for everyone, if you post the same thing on more than one board please put XP (cross post) in your title. Good luck deciding if you want to ask her or not!

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