Just wanted to let you all know that FI's mother passed away on Dec. 23. I told you he got a phone call that he should come out to see her right away and left work early that day. Well, he arrived at about 5:30pm, spent a few hours sitting with her, and she passed away at 10:45pm that night. Everyone has been saying that she was holding on just for him to get here. The last thing she said to him was "remember, I love you." I gave him a few days with just his family than drove out to NY the day after Christmas to join him for the viewing on Sunday and the burial today.
Finally, her suffering is over. I broke down at her viewing because the person I saw in the casket looked nothing like her. She looked 1000 times worse than even the last time I saw her. As sad as this is, the pain and suffering is not what we wanted for her ever, and it doesn't have to be that way for her anymore.
She had a full Catholic mass today at a beautiful cathedral and her viewing was yesterday. I met alot of FI's extended family for the first time, wished it was under better circumstances. But now it will be alot less awkward at the wedding and I will know more faces. So, I guess that's the good that has come out of this. In fact, it has made FI and I alot more excited about our plans!!
FI is doing ok. He doesn't quite know how to feel. Of course he's devastated but at the both time we both feel the relief, the peace, and the weight that has been lifted. She is with God, and all of the drama FI and I went through with her is finally over. He has his moments but this was a long time coming and he has had alot of time to prepare himself for this. Alot of our friends from NY also showed up at the viewing; which meant alot and I know it helped FI a ton to have them there.
Thank you everyone for all of the love, support and advice you've given me here over the past few months especially. You're all amazing
"Imperfection is beauty; madness is genious. And it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring" ~ Marilyn Monroe