I've posted questions/concerns on other boards and i often get told i'm wrong, rude, a pushover, etc. I would never tell somebody on TK that they are doing things wrong because it's not my wedding, but some people don't feel that way.
for example, I asked a question about including maps to the reception in the invitations. I said it was a 45 min drive from the church to the reception and got so much flack for having that! i was told it's too long, it's rude, it's poor etiquette, etc. this may be rude elsewhere, but in my circle and location, everyone does this.
i was also told it's not okay to invite people to the ceremony and not the reception. another thing that is okay in my area!
it's just a bit frustrating.