step-grandparents

Re: step-grandparents

• Beachy730 member

  

  December 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_step-grandparents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8ebadb40-45b8-406f-8c2b-377f0be72626Post:d977fb78-49a4-47b0-a2dd-814e25a8adae">step-grandparents</a>:
  [QUOTE]what is the proper ettiquite when dealing with step-grandparents? Are they walked down the isle/seated in the same way as the regular parents? what about flowers? My FI has a step-grandmother. He's dad didn't marry his stepmom until he was a senior in High School, so it isn't like his stepmom raised him or anything like that. I just don't want to offend anyone/do the wrong thing.
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  <div>You could have them walk in if you wanted.  We chose not to have grandparents walk down during the processional, they were seated regularly.  H's grandfather has trouble walking so he couldn't do it so we decided not to do any grandparents and nobody questioned it.  We did however get a corsage and bout for all parents and grandparents, so if you do that I would definitely get one for the step-grandmother.</div>

  

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• aleighk1

  

  December 2010

  My mom was equally raised by her mom and her step-mom and is very close to both so they will all be walked down and seated the same way. 

  It really is up to you and FI what you feel comfortable doing.

  
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• shortee426 member

  

  December 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_step-grandparents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8ebadb40-45b8-406f-8c2b-377f0be72626Post:d977fb78-49a4-47b0-a2dd-814e25a8adae">step-grandparents</a>:
  [QUOTE]what is the proper ettiquite when dealing with step-grandparents? Are they walked down the <strong>isle</strong>/seated in the same way as the regular parents? what about flowers? My FI has a step-grandmother. He's dad didn't marry his stepmom until he was a senior in High School, so it isn't like his stepmom raised him or anything like that. I just don't want to offend anyone/do the wrong thing.
  Posted by PaddyB[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>An isle is a teeny little island.  An aisle is what you will walk down on your wedding day.</div>

  
  
  

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• strlzfan11 member

  

  December 2010

  I think how she's treated in the wedding more depends on whether your FI views her as a grandmother rather than his dad viewing her as the woman who raised him or a mother-figure.
  
  I have a step-grandmother who married my grandfather when I was 14 (grandma died when I was 11).  While she's not my grandmother, she still functions in that role for my cousins and I.  In fact, my two youngest cousins were born after our grandmother died so our step-grandmother is the only grandmother they know.  She treats us just the same as she does her own grandchildren and we see her more than they do (especially now that she's sick).   She received corsages at all of the weddings and was escorted to her seat with the other grandparents.

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• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  December 2010 edited December 2010

  What type of step-grandmother are we dealing with?
  

  
  

  Type 1:  Your step-parent's biological mom. 

  Type 2: You biological grandfather's second wife. 

  
  

  My grandfather remarried before I was born so his second wife (my "step grandmother") was there my entire life and I will absolutely honor her like my biological grandmothers. 

  
  

  However, if my parents got divorced and one of them remarried, I would not feel the need to include their new spouses' parents in the processional or anything. 

  
  

  EDIT: I just realized that you are referring to the first type.   I would just invite her as a guest and call it a day. Get her a corsage if you're really concerned. 

  
  

  
  

  
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