I'm a newlywed who is supposed to be in the wedding for one of my bridemaids. The wedding was going to be in our hometown but now it looks like the wedding might be out of state (out of driving distance). She has picked the dresses (hers and ours), the groom's attire and rings, but no date and location yet, although she's leaning toward the holidays next year. I just looked at the dress she picked online and it's out of my price range. Add on top of it the plane tickets my husband and I now have to buy, the hotel we're going to need to reserve during the holidays, showers, bach party, time off work and gifts and I just don't know how I'm going to afford all this! A budget was never discussed and now I'm wondering if I was hasty in agreeing to be in this wedding.
I haven't met the MOHs but the bride says that they are just going to plan things like the shower, etc- which I'm afraid means that I will end up paying for things I didn't plan on yet again. How can I get the bride to give me a realistic price range, including dates, etc? Every time I ask, she's super vague about everything- like I said, she doesn't have a date yet. I want to be there for my friend and I know it's her special day and her vision and I can't tell her what to do, but I can't just spit out money whenever- I need to know how much to plan for. Please help...