I have been lurking here for awhile (thanks for all the great tips and ideas, btw!) but I thought I would finally introduce myself. I'm getting married next July (Fri. the 22) in VA. I'm super excited about the whole process, but mostly can't wait to be married!
I'm also writing because I could use some NWR advice, and you ladies seem to have really level-headed opinions. I don't want to really bring this up to anyone IRL, since it's not a big deal and I don't want to drag any of my friends into it. This might be long, so feel free to move on now if you don't have time!
Basically, I'm frustrated with one of my college roommates (we've stayed really close sense we graduated) and need a reality check as to whether or not I should say anything to her. The situation is this: she has been single for a long time, and pretty sad about it - to the point where I don't really bring up WR or relationship stuff around her since I don't want to make her more uncomfortable. Well, about a month ago, she met someone and has had a total whirlwind romance - they are already talking about moving to be near each other, marriage, etc. I really like the guy and I do think they are great together, so I have been super supportive of her happiness. She is very level headed and I'm not worried about her making poor decisions. I've been calling her regularly (pretty much daily) to check in with her, defending her to some of our more judgmental friends, emailing her about things, etc. constantly.
Well, last week my mother was admitted to the hospital with heart problems. When she texted me something about her new guy, I responded and then sent a text saying "I can't really talk, my mom is in the hospital
". She responded with "OMG - so sorry hope things are ok!"... and then I haven't heard anything from her since. This is unusual for our friendship - we typically have each other's backs in these situations, and this girl knows my mom personally. I'm feeling frustrated that I've been super supportive of her new relationship - and she's not really being there for me at all throughout this family situation (which, I hate to say it, feels a little more significant to me than a new boyfriend).
So, my question is this - do I just let this go, or do I find a way to bring this up to let her know about my hurt feelings? If I should bring it up, how?
Thanks for 'listening' to the new girl, ladies
I appreciate it.