Hey Knotties! I'm sorta new to this, but I did post an introduction, so I at least know how to submit a comment, ha.
I have this huge concern, and I figured there was no one better to ask for advice than the Military gals. I posted this on another board about a month ago, but I was WAY too detailed and I never actually got an answer to my question. >_>
Anyways, my FI and I are engaged right now. We've been talking about marriage for a couple of months (eee!) and the silly guy even wants a mangagement ring (d'aww!). Currently, he's at BMT in San Antonio until early December - yep, he's in Air Force - so we're going to hold off on announcing the news to our families for a little while. I'll probably tell mine the first week of November, but they basically already know. His family, however, is another story.
FMIL and FSFIL don't like me. Period. Once they discovered I have a couple of tattoos, among other things, and that Aaron and I were actually getting serious, they really pulled out all the stops. They've done everything from charging him rent for the last two months he was living with them before BMT (wtf?!) to proclaiming that he has to choose between them and me, backing down, however, once he told them he'd pick me every time.
But seriously, I can't stand confrontation. I've got no idea whatsoever as to what to do to remedy this situation. At one point, they really did like me - I mean, I go to church, I'm working twenty five hours a week to pay for my tuition, and I'm a full-time student. There's not a whole lot to not like about me, imho. I mean, I'm not a prostitute or a drug dealer. C'mon, that's got to count for something, right?! Ha.
I just want to know if it's out of line for me to contact his mother and ask her out to lunch to try and smooth things over, and maybe figure out why there is so much tension. I mean, it could be she just doesn't want to lose her only son. Or is there something else I should do? Should I just let it go and be okay with the fact that his family can't stand me?