I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in a wedding in about three weeks. I was also supposed to be getting married two weeks after their wedding and my recently ex fiance and I were bothed supposed to be in the wedding. The bride and groom were also supposed to be in our wedding. Upon cancelling my wedding my ex fiance became very unpredictable and I was forced to take out a prtective order against him. I let the couple know and told them that I was more than willing to come and be in their wedding just as planned but that my ex fiance just isn't allowed to talk to me. But they understandable decided that the best thing was to just have neither one of us in the wedding. The bride was to be one of my bridesmaids just as I was to be one of hers. She has paid for half of her bridesmaid dress (about $65) and my mother offered to pay her back for it or she could pay the other half and keep the dress, her choice. However, I have paid for my dress, my shoes and all of my accessories in full (about $230). I can't return any of it and I was more than willing to go ahead and be in the wedding no matter what personal issues I had going on. What is proper etiquette in this uniques situation? If she did offer to pay me back I would probably decline however, I just feel like she should offer. She didn't even tell me they were deciding to not have either one of in the wedding, the groom did. Should she offer to pay me back?