My parents cannot afford to help us with our wedding. We knew this from the beginning and we are more than capable of paying for it ourselves. FI's mom still wants to pay for the rehearsal dinner. I told her it was unnecessary and that my parents weren't contributing but she insisted. I am extremely grateful for her contribution. FI and I live in Oklahoma. The wedding is in Cleveland (where my family lives) and FMIL lives 5 hours away from the wedding site.
My mom has been very helpful and has gone to many venues and has found the perfect place right on the lake. She sent pictures and I told her to book it (since we're getting married on a holiday weekend and things go fast). I told FI about it and he said his mom wants to be included in the planning process and that we shouldn't make decisions without her. I absolutely agree that she should be included and I have tried, but she lives 5 hours away! I don't really know how to include her besides telling her what we like and what we've found. BTW she has not and will not give us a budget. Just says do what you want and I'll find a way to pay for it.
I guess I'm just frustrated that I can't make decisions without checking with her first. Again, I REALLY appreciate her paying for it, but I want to plan this without having to go over every single detail with her. What do you guys think, am I just being a brat about this?