I am the Matron of Honor in my friend's wedding. She lives in one state, the groom's family in another, and I live in the city where she is getting married. I figured the bridesmaids would throw her a shower locally, but the more I am hearing things, I feel like I will wind up throwing this myself which I feel is a bit unfair. I know I am not obligated to throw a shower but if the bridesmaids don't do it, no one else will.
The groom lives far away and I think his mother will be throwing a shower with the groom's sister in their location. Thus, I feel like I can't expect the groom's sister, a bridesmaid, to financially contribute to her shower in my area. That is one bridesmaid down.
Bride mentioned to me that Maid of Honor and another bridesmaid live out of state are in school, respectively, and may not be able to attend all wedding events for financial reasons/school commitments. When asked which events she would prefer them to attend, she says bachelorette party because she would notice the absence of their presence more at that event than her bridal shower.
That leaves me and another bridesmaid attending her local shower. I am fine with traveling to groom's mother's location for her shower but when I brought this up to the bride she said she felt many of her guests would not be willing to travel to that location, but she appreciated that I was willing (um....).
What can I do? I haven't emailed the other bridesmaids about a shower yet, but I am dreading it. Is it unfair to ask bridesmaids who can't attend to contribute? What would you do in this situation? TIA.