My SIL and future SIL(not FI's sister, but my brothers fiance) threw my Bridal Shower this past weekend. Everything was fun and happy, my entire bridal shower was there, my mom and grandma, his family and friends. It was a small fun event. Then, always the negative person his FMIL started talking more as the party got to a close. My MOH/Best friend as a present created a mini photoalbum of FI and I throughout the past 5 years together, I LOVED it so I passed it around to everyone. When FMIL started looking at the picture she made the incredibly rude comment of "WOW you sure have gained a lot of wait since you guys started dating." Who says this type of thing and believes it is okay? Especially at my bridal shower infront of my friends and family!? This is not the first time she has made a comment, when we showed her our engagement pictures she said "Wow you look skinny in that one, you must be sucking it in a lot." Mind you I have gained weight since we started dating, i was 18 at the time and soon after moved away to college and started BC but I am by no means FAT. I was a dancer in HS, so i was very athletic and in shape. Now im simply "normal".
Im at a loss on how to handle this constant negativity. FMIL and FI have been arguing the past month, and she has been acting like a child. Easter she refused to speak to him or look at him because she was mad about a disagreement they had, which she is the one who created the argument. FFIL thinks my FI should start the conversation with her and apologize, of which he has nothing to apologize for and he attempted to speak to her at easter and she literally turned her back and walked away from him. Then the next week, she comes to my bridal shower and makes negative comments about me.
I have been sucking it up and ignoring these type of outburts for a while now, but im getting to my breaking point. FI wont confront her about it and says that if I have a problem with her speak my mind about it and tell her. This bothers me because i was raised to always respect my friends parents/my elders but its getting to a point where she does not DESERVE this respect from me. She believes the negativity and harsh comments are okay because no one has ever spoken up to her. She makes them at family gatherings to other peoples and my FFIL says he just ignores it because everyone knows "how she is." Which was his response to when FI and her had an argument. UGH I am just so beyond frustrated with all of this and I know if her negativity continues to leak out on the big day, im not going to be able to put on a happy face. I will probably turn into "bridezilla" and FLIP!
