After telling everyone the happy news of our engagement this past August, I recieved a call from an old childhood friend. Having not heard from her since our junior year in highschool I chit-chatted with her for a while and agreed to meet her from lunch since she has recently moved back into the area. After crying and telling me she is so lonely and has no friends anymore she then puts me on the spot and asks me if she can be my maid of honor-- or at least a bridesmaid! I felt like I was put in such a terrible position I could only nervously blurt out , "well i don't know, we will have to see." . Now its almost February.... we are getting married in July, and I just caught news that she is telling everyone that she is in my wedding. To make things worse, she wont quit calling non stop offering to "design" my wedding partys jewelry (that looks like a five year old assembled)... telling me that my best friend and maid of honor isn't the right choice and that she should be my maid of honor instead... ontop of telling me we can't go shopping for bridesmaid dresses until she drops weight, and that certain dresses wont be allowed because they wont look right on her and "everyone will be looking at her so she has to look good". I feel terrrible for letting it go on this long, but I guess I just feel awful that I have to tell her I can't have her in the wedding. I barely know her anymore and she is just entirely too overbearing. I am sure people think I am awful, but I have just been put in a bad position. So its either, I settle and let her in the wedding and sacrifice my day for her happiness or I be selfish and tell her she can't be in the wedding. I really need advice.