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miguelhilary2010 · June 2010

Happy reading!

http://www.slate.com/blogs/blogs/browbeat/archive/2010/06/24/in-defense-of-1.aspx?GT1=38001

Jesster153 · June 2010

haha Interesting

We kinda make a joke rule (but it was real) that if you had a significant other that you were with for more than 8 months, than you got a plus 1
We didn't give our single friends plus 1 bc our guest list was getting crazy- but they understood and they'll have other plus 1's to hang with.

That poor guy- even his own brother dissed his lady friend haha

[Deleted User] · June 2010

I can see it from both sides to be honest.

I have been given a guest when I was single and didn't being anyone because I thought it would be boring for the guest and I thought it would be more work for me as I would have to entertain them so to speak.

My late teen early 20 cousins sure as hell aren't getting dates! I already have 23 first cousins on my mom's side, ca-ching. Two are married and one has been with her BF for 2-3 years so they will all come of course.

However I think it's difficult to judge how serious other people are in their relationships. FI and I were engaged 9 months after we started dating.

We are doing anyone dating will get to bring them, but have yet to determine how long they will need to date them. I kinda of feel like for the English guests if they are willing to fly to Philadelphia they should be invited though.

We are going to send out STDs soon and one of FI's friends just started dating someone who is a friend of a friend so we know her already. We are not going to put her name on the STD in case they break up in the meantime. Of course she will be invited if they are together, but if they aren't she's out! I'm not a huge fan, if you can't tell.

miguelhilary2010 · June 2010

NCV - We did the same think with the STD. We sent them to the single friend only. I didn't want there to be an issue come wedding time if they broke up. I even addressed some of the invites with just our friend's name on the outer envelope, and theirs and SO on the inner envelope. I don't really care if we pissed people off.

LaRositaMonita · June 2010

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[QUOTE]he didn't give our single friends plus 1 bc our guest list was getting crazy- but they understood and they'll have other plus 1's to hang with.
Posted by Jesster153[/QUOTE]

This. I mean, anyone in a "long term" relationship (for us that was a year-ish or more, or just someone who we intellectually knew was in a serios relationship) got the +1. We actually wound up adding in two beecause we had no idea people were in a relationship, so we let those go. The single people that we left single totally got it.

kira&jake · June 2010

It is really weird that he did not get a +1 from his own brother! Especially dating his girlfriend for so long! I was hoping to go with everyone dating someone for 6 months or more gets a +1. Hopefully we won't have too many issues with that.

jungleland · June 2010

It's pretty simple.

If a person is an adult, meaning over the age of 18, long standing rules of etiquette suggest that you must invite them with +1... inviting an adult unescorted is just in absolutely horrible taste, gauche, declasse... A wedding is expensive, don't throw etiquette out the door just to save money.... Do the right thing, +1 ALWAYS

It's not in YOUR place to attempt to determine the level of ones relationship...."well they've only been together 2 months"...... gauche again!

Northstar1808 · June 2010

The thing with the article is that he says he'll pick an awesome date who loves 80s music and weddings and hors d'ouevers or however you spell that word, but not everyone does. Sometimes people just bring random people. Sometimes people bring people who love to drink and then you have a whole bunch of drunk ass strangers. Cause that's a lot of fun.

I understand the frustration as a guest but as a bride it's just too damn expensive. I'm sorry, I can't afford to pay for strangers to come to my wedding. I mean I can understand letting a friend, who is someone you met and has no connections with anyone else you know, bring a guest. But for all my friends they'll know a good handful of people so they won't be alone or awkward.

I haven't heard any complaints really, except for my bratty cousin. But oh well tough luck! I say either come alone or don't come at all because I don't want you to come and be all pouty and bitchy.

jungleland · June 2010

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[QUOTE]The thing with the article is that he says he'll pick an awesome date who loves 80s music and weddings and hors d'ouevers or however you spell that word, but not everyone does. Sometimes people just bring random people. Sometimes people bring people who love to drink and then you have a whole bunch of drunk ass strangers. Cause that's a lot of fun. I understand the frustration as a guest<strong> but as a bride it's just too damn expensive. I'm sorry, I can't afford to pay for strangers to come to my wedding.</strong> I mean I can understand letting a friend, who is someone you met and has no connections with anyone else you know, bring a guest. But for all my friends they'll know a good handful of people so they won't be alone or awkward. I haven't heard any complaints really, except for my bratty cousin. But oh well tough luck! I say either come alone or don't come at all because I don't want you to come and be all pouty and bitchy.
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</div><div>it's that very position that shows lack of respect for your guests.... do the right thing, and allow your friends to decide as to whether or not they want to burden you with a stranger...at least you won't be in the wrong... it seems a lot of people missed finishing school.... +1 always!!
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katykat03 · July 2010

I was invited to a wedding last month as just me, no FI. The bride is a dear girl who I've known since sophomore year in college and the groom I've known just as long. She's met FI and everything, too, so I RSVP for 2 because we had already made the travel arrangements to get up to PA. Luckily there was no awkward phone call or anything, but another annoying thing (this is totally turning into a vent) is that we sat at a table with groom's HS friends (whom I've never met) and all of our other college friends sat together!

CA2PABride2Be · July 2010

This writer has horrible debate skills. I thought he was going to make a valid point with the fact that his long-time girlfriend wasn't invited to either wedding, but then goes on to say brides should open it up to +1's to everyone, no matter the cost? The social atmosphere outweighs the extra $1,000s you may be putting in?

What I want to know is he says he'll find someone to bring that loves 80s music, etc. as his date; but what happened to that long-term girlfriend that he was initially upset about not being able to bring?

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