Let me start by saying that this is a total venting post. I knew deep down he wasn't going to come to my wedding. I was just waiting to see what kind of excuse he'd use.
I just can't believe he kept making me believe he'd be there, when all along he knew he wasn't going. And I get that we're having a destination wedding and I should be prepared to have some (possibly very important) guests not be able to make the trip. I know money is not an issue with my dad and FI and I have been engaged for 4 years, so you'd think he would have worked it out.
I knew he was lying back in January, but our relationship has always been rocky so I didn't want to turn this into yet another big issue. (He likes to make himself out to be better than everyone and is constantly lying in order to do so, and I am the type of person who can't stand a liar and will call you on it if I find out you're lying. Needless to say, we've gotten into some pretty big battles over the years because of his lies. I know our issues are both of our faults and I've let all the little white lies slide, but some I just can't seem to bite my tongue with.) I figured when he was ready to tell me, he'd tell me. But he kept saying he was waiting for his turn to put in for his vacation at work. I guess he doesn't realize that I know people whose husbands work where my dad works, and I know they got vacations approved back in December. My dad was still trying to tell me that they hadn't gotten around to him for vacation, even though he's a supervisor and is supposedly 4th on the seniority list. (They approve vacations based on seniority, and everyone picks in December. They do the vacation calendar from Jan-Dec, so it's kind of odd to me that in mid-Feb he still wouldn't know if his vacation was approved or not.)
He called me today to tell me he can't come because the guy JUST ahead of him on the list booked a vacation the week before & the week after our wedding weekend and will be out of the country so my dad has to stay here and be on call. (Although why you'd book a vacation without knowing if it was approved doesn't make much sense to me.) He's pretending to be angry and threatening to sue his employer, although I don't know what he'd sue for. I just wish he would do the honorable thing and say "Hey, I'm not coming, but I hope you have a great wedding" rather than keep dragging this out and lying about it. Now he's saying he's appealing and will know something later in the week. Yeah. Right.
| 17 love destination weddings
20 can't make it
| 21 don't know what to do with a RSVP card
RSVP Deadline: March 8th