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WEDDING DILEMA!!

WhitneyRayHolmesWhitneyRayHolmes
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What should I do about the fact, I was in who, I thought, was my best friend's wedding, which she has changed the date about 5xs!. Then I got engaged and we had always talked, my fiance and I, about putting our 2 grandparents wedding dates together and that was the date we would get married. I got engaged and it so happens it is 2 1/2 weeks BEFORE the wedding I am a bridesmaid in. We are planning a destination wedding with just the 2 of us and then not having a reception until 2months after the wedding, just so it wouldn't get in the way of her wedding. After about 3weeks into our engagement and wedding planning my friend informs me I am being selfish and taking over her "bride time" and rudely kicks me out of her wedding after I wouldn't change my date. Should I even invite her to my reception or forget the friendship????? 
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited July 2012
    I agree with Stage that you did nothing wrong in this situation.  However, if you're not ready to throw away your friendship (whatever it may be at this point) then you might think about inviting her to your reception.  Be prepared for her to say no though.

    ETA: Also, if your screen name is your full name then you might want to rethink putting your info out in the internet like that.  Delete your account and start a new one that has nothing to do with your personal information. 
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    You decided to have a private destination wedding and then the reception 2 months later to accomodate this girl... and she thinks it's not good enough and kicks you out? That is sucky of her.

    If you don't want to be friends with her anymore, and I wouldn't blame you if this was the case, then don't invite her. Keep in mind that not inviting her could be a friendship ending move, so decide carefully.
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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    Weddings make people crazy. Even good people. So, there's always the possibility that she'll go back to normal and appologize after her day is said and done.

    You certainly didn't do anything wrong. She gets one day. Not "bride time" in the days/months leading up to the wedding. It doesn't work that way. But you went out of your way to accomodate her.

    As mad as I'd be, I'd probably still invite her. But, I'm that kind of person. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and hope she comes to her senses after her wedding. It's extending an olive branch hoping, but not expecting, the same in return.
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  • MrsL2014MrsL2014 member
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    Sorry this is happening to you. She doesn't sound like she is being a good friend and if someone had said to me what she said to you I would think I am better off with out a friend like that. She should be happy for you and I honestly think you are already going out of your way to accommodate for her wedding. Is the plans you had of eloping what you wanted to do, or what you wanted to do because of her wedding timing? If those plans are still what you want to do after this situation then enjoy your ceremony, otherwise plan the wedding you and your FI want. Like others said, she only gets one day.
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  • theponz512theponz512 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f231929c-a3a7-47ef-9653-6b2a06490870Post:591835f0-0d32-44af-a964-8c5730ce5f6b">Re: WEDDING DILEMA!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You decided to have a private destination wedding and then the reception 2 months later to accomodate this girl... and she thinks it's not good enough and kicks you out? That is sucky of her. If you don't want to be friends with her anymore, and I wouldn't blame you if this was the case, then don't invite her. <strong>Keep in mind that not inviting her could be a friendship ending move</strong>, so decide carefully.
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    </div><div>Kicking her out of the wedding party because she wouldn't change her date to accomodate this girl even more than she already has is a friendship ending move. </div><div>OP, if she would kick you out because your date is BEFORE hers, and your "taking over bride time" then definitely reconsider the friendship. I'd [ersonally want nothing to do with her, but I know everyones relationships are different, so you may want to work it out.</div><div>
    </div><div>If you think she is going to in anyway take away from your reception, then i wouldn't invite her. Good Luck!</div>
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