The wedding is only three weeks away and we are still dealing with an out of control mother of the bride,. She is by definition, a true "momzilla". Here is a bit of background: bride and her mom have just gotten back together after almost 10 years of a strained relationship; bride has been living with groom in our home for more than three years; bride is a sweet, non-confrontational young woman who has grown socially; groom is madly in love with bride; momzilla thinks this is her wedding; home has been unbearable with fighting between bride and groom for months; groom's parents give them privacy and do not interfere - until bride throws family under the bus. Truth and facts have come to light and I (groom's mom) have tried to reach out to bride's mom (on son's insistence) to no avail. FACTS: bride's parents are not paying for the reception, the couple is. Both sets of parents are contributing money to the reception to help out. Bride's mom has worded invitations indicating bride's parents are hosting the reception: groom and his dad flipped out. (I worked hard to smooth that one over, but it still upsets them.) Bride's mom is consistently rude, cold and self-centered. Bride only wishes to please her mom. Groom is frustrated and considering calling off the wedding. Groom has put his foot down recently and bride is coming around, but all too slowly. There has been very little joy in any of the planning because of this momzilla. I am praying the angst will dissipate soon! We will all meet at the rehearsal and dinner and I do not want any more trouble with this woman. So . . . should I just kill her with kindness or simply adhere to the rules of etiquette and be a good hostess? Should I pretend nothing is wrong? I realize this woman will never change but I fear she may undermine the details that are important, details that are simply "the right things to do".