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son walking down the asile..

This will be my second wedding, and i find it odd to have my father/step father walk me down the asile..... again. im considering having my 4 year old son walk me down, it just seems right to me. too wierd?

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  • I think you should consider making this trip down the aisle solo.  Or, you and your FI can make that walk together.  I've seen mothers escorted by their sons, but in every case, those young men are adults.

    So ...since you've brought up the word weird ... yes, it would be weird to have a 4 year old escort mom down the aisle to be "given away."  Yeah, too weird ...

  • Yes-sorry,  I think it's weird to have your 4 year old son escort you down the aisle.  Having him as RB makes sense to me, though.

    But I find it kind of strange that you think having your father and/or stepfather escort you down the aisle, but you're okay with a preschooler doing that.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • I don't like the idea of your son walking you down the aisle. Either walk down it alone or walk together with your FI.
  • I agree with having him as an RB and walking down alone or with FI. For what it's worth, I went to a co-worker's wedding last summer who had children and had been previously married and she had both her parents walk her down the aisle. No one thought it was weird. She wanted to honor them for the support they'd given her through her life, and that didn't change even though she had been previously married.


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  • I disagree...I think it's a precious thought to have your son, even at 4 years old, walk you down the aisle.  I'm sure he will feel like a little man and I think it's a great way to include him in the wedding.

    If it feels right to you...I'd do it!
  • thank you, i think hearing everyones negativity just renforces my decision. i think its easy to tell who has kids or not. haha. having been a single mother for a few years i always put my son first, his opinion matters the most to me. and i would be honored to have such an amazing little man give me away, seeing that this marriage will affect him more than anyone else!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_son-walking-down-asile?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:ad821866-1195-4d25-a461-35b5d38a8079Post:3a451ca8-100c-4376-81dc-d973a8afc82e">Re: son walking down the asile..</a>:
    [QUOTE]thank you, i think hearing everyones negativity just renforces my decision. <strong>i think its easy to tell who has kids or not</strong>. haha. having been a single mother for a few years i always put my son first, his opinion matters the most to me. and i would be honored to have such an amazing little man give me away, seeing that this marriage will affect him more than anyone else!
    Posted by amandalosee[/QUOTE]

    For the record:  I have three children that I love beyond measure, and have been blessed with two incredible children-in-law.  I've been a teacher for more than 35 years, 23 of them teacher preschoolers who are ages 3-5.

    My comment has nothing at all to do with the fact that I don't have, nor understand the bond of a mother and her child.  I do.  My advice was completely based on what I think is appropriate for a parent/child and for a 4 year old.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_son-walking-down-asile?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:ad821866-1195-4d25-a461-35b5d38a8079Post:3a451ca8-100c-4376-81dc-d973a8afc82e">Re: son walking down the asile..</a>:
    [QUOTE]thank you, i think hearing everyones negativity just renforces my decision. i think its easy to tell who has kids or not. haha. having been a single mother for a few years i always put my son first, his opinion matters the most to me. and i would be honored to have such an amazing little man give me away, seeing that this marriage will affect him more than anyone else!
    Posted by amandalosee[/QUOTE]

    I've been a single mother for over 12 years (my son will be 18 in 3 months). 

    Before you jump to conclusions about those of us who have responded ...

    My response simply reflected <u>your</u> language.  I tried to put myself in your shoes and think if it would seem "weird" if my son were 4 years old and "giving me away" and I kept coming back to the word you used ... "weird."

    Heck, my own father didn't "give me away" when I married the first time.  If my son were 4 years old this time around, he certainly wouldn't "give me away."  That would not only be weird, but downright creepy.

    I wish you the best of luck!
  • Do it. It's a great idea and it will be a memorable moment. The pictures will be awesome too.
  •  I am also a bride who will be having my son walk me down the aisle! He will be 5 years old at the time. No one that I have mentioned this too thinks that it is weird or that he will better be suited for another role. Since I have a child, we will not only be getting married but joining our family together and I could not think of a more perfect way for my son to feel included. Please don't question your decision I think you will be pleasantly surprised at how well it is received.  Good Luck and hope that helps!
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  • I am having my son and my father walk me down. My son is not giving me away, he is coming with me, this is a journey we are making together. We are a package, we come together. It's all about perspective.
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