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TY Note Questions

claire_9claire_9
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I had my bridal shower last weekend and want to start writing my ty notes. I understand you are supposed to send a separate note for shower presents and wedding presents. Here are my issues:

1. We have been getting presents in from our registry that wern't given to me at the shower. Are these considered wedding presents? Are we supposed to wait until the wedding to open these and send out the ty's? Or can I get those out of the way now? If we wait until after the wedding to open them, when is the right time?

2. I have heard gifts from the shower are meant for both of you, so both of you should sign the card. Does this include lingerie? He was not present at the shower.

Thanks!
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Re: TY Note Questions

  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    1 - open any gift you get in the mail right away to ensure it is not broken or damaged and send the thank you note right away.  If you get another gift at the wedding, write another note.  If you don't get another gift at the wedding that's one less TY you need to write then :).

    2 - Thank you notes (correspondance in general) can only be from one person.  Just sign your name at the bottom.  For items it would be appropriate, you are welcome to use a "WE" in the body of the thank you -ie:  we can't wait to make waffles on a lazy sunday morning with the new waffle maker you got us.  etc.  But only one person signs it.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    Ditto Loopy.  She's a smart one.
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  • julie279julie279 member
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    I did not know about Loopy's #2.  Interesting.  Thanks for the info! :)
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  • sbradkesbradke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ty-note-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1a5f3bbb-8440-43a2-aba6-2eeb7c38501fPost:b28b6e58-8c02-415f-b3c5-287272a38eed">Re: TY Note Questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]I did not know about Loopy's #2.  Interesting.  Thanks for the info! :)
    Posted by julie279[/QUOTE]

    Me neither. I was thinking I would sign the TY notes from both of us.  This is not correct?
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    A bridal shower I can understand only the bride signing...but wedding gifts too?

    I had DH sign all of the thank you cards as well. I thought a marriage was between two people, regardless of who wrote the note.

    We also sign birthday/anniversary/new baby cards and other assorted correspondance we send from both of us as we're a couple ("social unit" around these parts).

    Ooops.

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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    H and I both signed both of our cards.  He also wrote half of them though.  And a shower was thrown for him, but not for me, but I signed the shower TYs too.
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  • mbrischouxmbrischoux member
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    I signed the shower thanks from both of us, especially to his family.  I don't think anyone would side-eye your ettiquette skills if you did this.

    Also, send thanks as you recieve gifts so the gifter knows you recieved it, even if it's before the shower or wedding.  The only exception we took to this was a woman I work with who was unable to come to the wedding, but gave me a gift.  She specificqally asked for a WEDDING thank you with our picture included (we did our wedding thanks through our photographer).  It was weird for a request, but if she was generous enough to give us a gift, the least she deserves is a card with a damn cute couple on it;-)
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  • TheVirginiansTheVirginians member
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    Loopy's #2 is pretty good, but before you say "we" in the body of the letter, say "John and I are looking forward to using the waffle maker when we......".  That way John is already designated as the "we".  Then sign the TY with just your name, whether is is a TY for shower or wedding gift.
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