I got along with my FMIL really well until the engagement. Now all she talks about is the wedding. We tried to ignore her, change the subject, FI asked her to slow down a bit but nothing helped.
Our excitement from the wedding is gone and we got to the point when we feel like we just want it to be over. It is hard to keep anything secret from her because the wedding is taking place in my FI home town and she knows all the vendors. If we do things different from her ideas then they are all wrong. In her opinior our wedding is going to be a total disaster because we do not want to do it her way.
We even tried to incorporate her in wedding plans, so she doesnt feel left out but that was the worst decision ever. I like her and respect her as my FI mother but I am loosing my patience.
All my life I have fought with my parents because of the respect. I am 28 and they still treat me like a child, so my FMIL behavior makes me really nervous and angry at the same time. I do not want to get in fight with her but I am desperate.
My FI leared to ignore her and do thing his way, so she talks to me. I can ignore her to a certain point but when I say NO for the 100th time it is really hard for me to stay calm. As I said my FI talked to her but it was a waste of time. We are both the first in our families to get married so I understand she is super excited, but I have some feelings too and would like her to accept them.