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  • edited December 2011
    "What do you think about this ring?"

    I think that ring is hideous.  I think that ring is trying to look like a bigger center stone.  I think that ring is too busy with the side stones, halo and double wedding bands. 

    I also think that any person who asks what others think about a ring is someone who is insecure.  It shouldn't matter what others think.   
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:bd9b8a40-1cc4-4e37-a394-65d5cc838b74">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I like what I like. The ring is Fabolous to me! My bf loves it as well.
    Posted by Princess*Cut[/QUOTE]

    Well, then, that's all that matters!  Congrats on finding a ring you love; it's no easy task.
  • edited December 2011
    I really don't like it - it's definitely not my style and I think it looks gaudy.

    As far as financing it I would wait until you can afford the ring in full before you buy it - life happens and you may find yourself in a spot where you can't pay off the ring in the alloted time frame and then you get hit with all the interest from the beginning. It doesn't matter how much you have already paid off either - it will tack on the full amount of the interest from when the purchase was made.
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  • Princess*CutPrincess*Cut member
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    What?!?!?!? Haha you are hiliarious. I asked for opinions. I didnt know that asking a question abut a ring is out of the rule book. And also I didnt know you should only get a certain type of ring. I must have missed that in the manual.

    Anywho, the ring is smaller stones surrounded by a slighter bigger stone and I like the illusion that it gives. If we can pay for it why not buy it, if I like it. Just a thought. And it doesnt matter who likes it or not. The "Queen" will have the last say so. Smooches!

    But thanks for your opinion...

  • Princess*CutPrincess*Cut member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh yeah Goldlie, I will check into that. My homeowners insurance does cover a lot but I need specifics. BTW, I love your choice of dresses. I prefer the mermaid type of gown as well. I havent really looked at many. But I am quite sure I will get something that is fitted. Also I plan to get a seperate dress for the reception (if budget allows).
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]What?!?!?!? Haha you are hiliarious. I asked for opinions. I didnt know that asking a question abut a ring is out of the rule book. And also I didnt know you should only get a certain type of ring. I must have missed that in the manual.

    Anywho, the ring is smaller stones surrounded by a slighter bigger stone and I like the illusion that it gives. If we can pay for it why not buy it, if I like it. Just a thought. And it doesnt matter who likes it or not. The "Queen" will have the last say so. Smooches!

    But thanks for your opinion...
    Posted by Princess*Cut[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you did ask for opinions.  It is a big shocker that people gave them. 

    You can get any type of ring you want.  Nobody else really cares about what type of ring you get.  There is no manual about rings. 

    That illusion is exactly why I don't like cluster rings.  IMHO, it is fake.  There I go again, giving my opinion.   

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  • Princess*CutPrincess*Cut member
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    edited December 2011
    I did ask for opinions. About the ring and about options to pay off the ring. Nothing more nothing less. I never knew 2 cts t.w was fake. Now thats something my dealer never told me. Gesh!!! I should have just asked you, darn it Tongue out

    Keep the opinions coming.... Oh yes I forgot, since we will be paying the ring off no one opinion really matters. But we are all adults and we can take criticism.

    Mutley what kind of ring do you have?
  • edited December 2011
    If you're going to ignore the opinions you asked for then why did you ask for them?
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  • Princess*CutPrincess*Cut member
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    edited December 2011
    Im not ignoring any comments. I think its a little  strange to say someone is insecure if they are asking for opinions about a ring. I have seen several post about dresses, venues, location, rings, etc. So I guess everyone who ask a question about what they like or ask for opinions, are insecure. Jmho. Maybe Im wrong. Undecided

    I actually appreciate all the comments about this ring and financing but that insecure part is out of pocket. Please dont turn this into a hate post. It wasnt started for that. Thanks!
  • edited December 2011
    Eh I agree with Mutley honestly - I don't understand why you would ask a group of internet strangers about something that involves your own personal style. I only ask my husband how I look or what he thinks about something I'm going to wear when I'm feeling insecure about how I look.
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  • edited December 2011

    There's nothing wrong with waiting to be engaged.  At least she's not rushing into anything.  My "FI" and I are pretty much doing the same thing.  I don't know exactly when but we're not officially engaged yet.  He is waiting for his parents to meet my parents and receive my parents' blessing.  Whatever your reason for waiting is your own.  At least you two are making a more rational decision, and there's nothing better than a couple that can communicate and agree to something as important as the idea of marriage.


    I'm glad he's waiting 6 months to purchase as well.  Even if he will be financing some, at least it will be less than the whole amount or putting a few bucks down.  GL with your search and future engagement!

  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:3b2b2097-8606-42b1-8fec-6d7606fa10d2">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Im not ignoring any comments. I think its a little  strange to say someone is insecure if they are asking for opinions about a ring. I have seen several post about dresses, venues, location, rings, etc. So I guess everyone who ask a question about what they like or ask for opinions, are insecure. Jmho. Maybe Im wrong. I actually appreciate all the comments about this ring and financing but that insecure part is out of pocket. <strong>Please dont turn this into a hate post. It wasnt started for that. Thanks!
    </strong>Posted by Princess*Cut[/QUOTE]

    Nobody was turning it into a hate post. Mutley was giving her honest opinion - that's what she does.

    If you love the ring and you can afford it then who cares what others think? Go for it. But you asked or opinions and you got them. That's that.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:9c3696fc-3b23-4c09-b27d-90d16d8dcdbb">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I did ask for opinions. About the ring and about options to pay off the ring. Nothing more nothing less. I never knew 2 cts t.w was fake. Now thats something my dealer never told me. Gesh!!! I should have just asked you, darn it .  Keep the opinions coming.... Oh yes I forgot, since we will be paying the ring off no one opinion really matters. But we are all adults and we can take criticism. Mutley what kind of ring do you have?
    Posted by Princess*Cut[/QUOTE]

    And I gave MY opinion on the ring.  Big freaking deal.  I think that cluster rings look like they are faking being bigger center stones.  Like I said before you can get any type of ring YOU want. 

    If you want to see my ring, it is in both my planning and married bios.  I had input, but my DH picked out the final version.  We actually got engaged without a ring, so that shows just how much I think the ring matters.     

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:3b2b2097-8606-42b1-8fec-6d7606fa10d2">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Im not ignoring any comments. I think its a little  strange to say someone is insecure if they are asking for opinions about a ring. I have seen several post about dresses, venues, location, rings, etc. So I guess everyone who ask a question about what they like or ask for opinions, are insecure. Jmho. Maybe Im wrong. I actually appreciate all the comments about this ring and financing but that insecure part is out of pocket. Please dont turn this into a hate post. It wasnt started for that. Thanks!
    Posted by Princess*Cut[/QUOTE]

    I believe that I used the words "I think."  I will restate what I said so that you can try to comprehend it again. 

    <u>I think that any person who asks what others think about a ring is someone who is insecure.  It shouldn't matter what others think. </u>

    I say this because a ring is a very personal decision.  If you are asking others what they think, you are really look for validation.  I think that looking for validation when it comes to jewelry is a sign of insecurity.
  • edited December 2011
    Princess, I think you should understand that there is a difference between liking something, and wanting it for yourself.  For example, lovetoshop's ring is beautiful.  For my own tastes, I prefer a round cut.  That doesn't change the fact that her ring is really nice.  

    You've gotten a lot of different opinions, but the one that counts is yours.  You love it and that's great.  GL

    P.S.  Thanks for the compliments. 

    Edit:  Oops, love to shop has a round cut.  Just pretend I originally said Jeana.  She has a beautiful princess cut ring.  
  • edited December 2011
    God I hate when people end posts with: Thanks.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:fa6878b9-24b7-44a5-a786-76ce9b26ffdd">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]God I hate when people end posts with: Thanks.
    Posted by KD+BC[/QUOTE]
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    </div><div>Reading fail.  Ignore this please.</div>
  • edited December 2011
    Come on now, KD.  It isn't meant to be condescending at all. 
  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:d86beb76-40e7-4ac9-ae1e-51f927044dc2">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think that any person who asks what others think about a ring is someone who is insecure.  It shouldn't matter what others think. I say this because a ring is a very personal decision.  If you are asking others what they think, you are really look for validation.  I think that looking for validation when it comes to jewelry is a sign of insecurity.
    Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

    While ultimately questions of style are a personal decision, sometimes soliciting other opinions might prompt something you hadn't thought of. I don't think it's a sign of insecurity--just one of indecision.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:d400a3ae-7cd3-4996-b99e-d9645e4a6c9a">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What do you think about this ring? : While ultimately questions of style are a personal decision, sometimes soliciting other opinions might prompt something you hadn't thought of. I don't think it's a sign of insecurity--just one of indecision.
    Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]

    Agree to disagree?

    I do agree with you when it comes to other items, just not the ring thing.
  • PandaBurrPandaBurr member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm still deciding whether or not the OP was being sarcastic or not when she asked if anyone could guess how much their monthly payments would be. Math fail.
  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    edited December 2011
    Not a fan of cluster rings.  They look way too busy.
     
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  • Princess*CutPrincess*Cut member
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    edited December 2011

    I appreciate all the responses. Thanks!

  • hetshuphetshup member
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    edited December 2011
    If you want to know what the monthly payments will be, try using Dinkytown.com, there are all sorts of neat calculators on there. And likewise, you could use it and figure out how much to save then go buy it in full. Savings can be a two way street.

    In my personal opinion, I really dislike cluster rings. The main issue I have with them is actually that they seem extremely cheap because they get dirty and show that dirt. The more nooks and crannies, they more they will show it. If I were looking for something different, I would likely wind up looking for a flat band with a interesting design. I feel like the cluster ring is trying to imitate instead of wowing on its own. 


    Oh and b\c I've been MIA recently, here is my ring. 

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:fc14effb-3c7e-454d-aef3-4343393b3ed9">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Princess, I think you should understand that there is a difference between liking something, and wanting it for yourself.  For example, lovetoshop's ring is beautiful.  For my own tastes, I prefer a round cut.  That doesn't change the fact that her ring is really nice.   You've gotten a lot of different opinions, but the one that counts is yours.  You love it and that's great.  GL P.S.  Thanks for the compliments.  Edit:  Oops, <strong>love to shop has a round cut.</strong>  Just pretend I originally said Jeana.  She has a beautiful princess cut ring.  
    Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's actually a cushion cut.  I totally know what you mean about liking something and wanting it for yourself though.  I really like round cuts on other people, but when I tried it on, I hated it on my hand.  I ONLY liked cushion cut, so that's what he got me.</div>
  • meganyanimeganyani member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it would definitely look better in person. I'm not a solitaire person so I know the taste you lean towards...still, that does seem 'cheap' for that much diamond...

    Also consider how much you use your hands. That ring is guaranteed to lose stones. I'm a little rough on my jewelry but luckily my e-ring has channel set stones aside from the center one.

    As far as 'buying' it now I don't think that's a great idea. If you are planning on when he will ask, why not save money until then; plus you have more time to look around?
  • irshis20irshis20 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you fiance can't afford to buy a $2,200 ring without financing, how do you expect to pay for a wedding? Or are parents paying for that? Just seems funny that you're talking about buying two wedding gowns, yet you don't have the bucks to buy a modestly priced engagement ring.

    Oh, as for the opinion that you asked for, I think the ring is tacky, gaudy and looks like it's trying to be something it's not. It's more like a right hand or cocktail ring to me...except not as refined.

    As for my ring, I don't have a pic of it on this computer, but it's three emerald cut diamonds set in platinum, 2.4 carats tw, E color, VS1 clarity, and it was well into five figures. My fiance paid cash for it.

    Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the answers.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:e2a2b987-6a03-486e-b972-a443e81ac80f">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you fiance can't afford to buy a $2,200 ring without financing, how do you expect to pay for a wedding? Or are parents paying for that? Just seems funny that you're talking about buying two wedding gowns, yet you don't have the bucks to buy a modestly priced engagement ring. Oh, as for the opinion that you asked for, I think the ring is tacky, gaudy and looks like it's trying to be something it's not. It's more like a right hand or cocktail ring to me...except not as refined. As for my ring, I don't have a pic of it on this computer, but it's three emerald cut diamonds set in platinum, 2.4 carats tw, E color, VS1 clarity, and it was well into five figures. My fiance paid cash for it. Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the answers.
    Posted by irshis20[/QUOTE]

    Well how awesome for you, but some people do see $2,200 as expensive that doesn't mean that they shouldn't be getting married.The rings my BF and I have looked at have been around $800. Your post comes off as very materialistic, snobby, and condescending.


  • irshis20irshis20 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:564771e4-3574-403f-8b31-fb7cb18cc197">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What do you think about this ring? : Well how awesome for you, but some people do see $2,200 as expensive that doesn't mean that they shouldn't be getting married.The rings my BF and I have looked at have been around $800. Your post comes off as very materialistic, snobby, and condescending.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    I didn't say she shouldn't get married, or that there was anything wrong with spending $2,200 on a ring. But you do understand that weddings are expensive, right? And that it's a little unusual for someone who would consider $2,200 expensive to spend the extra money on two wedding gowns? I was pointing out that things she's said in this thread don't really add up. Mostly I just find it annoying that she asked people for their opinions of the ring she likes, then got very defensive and resorted to namecalling when others didn't like it as much as she does. As another poster commented, that is a mark of someone who is insecure.
  • deburnindeburnin member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_think-this-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1dda7cb4-dac8-4d91-8348-367c54153c29Post:e2a2b987-6a03-486e-b972-a443e81ac80f">Re: What do you think about this ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you fiance can't afford to buy a $2,200 ring without financing, how do you expect to pay for a wedding? Or are parents paying for that? Just seems funny that you're talking about buying two wedding gowns, yet you don't have the bucks to buy a <strong>modestly priced engagement ring</strong>. Oh, as for the opinion that you asked for, I think the ring is tacky, gaudy and looks like it's trying to be something it's not. It's more like a right hand or cocktail ring to me...except not as refined. <strong>As for my ring, I don't have a pic of it on this computer, but it's three emerald cut diamonds set in platinum, 2.4 carats tw, E color, VS1 clarity, and it was well into five figures. My fiance paid cash for it. </strong>Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the answers.
    Posted by irshis20[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yay for you? But for some people, myself included, $2,200 is a crap ton to drop on a ring. One of the ring settings I like is $750 and THAT'S a lot of money to me. </div><div>
    </div><div>I do think you had good points, i.e. how are they going to be able to afford a wedding and the whole wanting two dresses when the ring is out of their budget, but for a lot of people that isn't a modestly priced ring...</div>
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  • edited December 2011
    "The Queen"...I saw an episode of Bridezillas where the bride insisted on being called "The Queen". Just sayin.

    Personally, I think the ring looks gaudy. It reminds me of the kind of rings I would pick up for $10 at Claires and wear out to the clubs so I wouldn't have skeevy guys hitting on me.

    But again, you asked for our opinions. Different strokes for different folks.

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