We were going to do a combined Father/Daughter and Mother/Son dance. I only agreed because I didn't want FIs mother to miss out on anything. However, she had a mild stroke about 2 mths ago so who knows if she will even be able to handle the dance.
I just don't want the dance at all. I am not a "little girl." I am 33 & we have 3 children. We've been together for 13 yrs so it's not like my Father isn't already used to the idea of me not being "his little girl." I haven't spoken to him about having the dance so I don't even know if he will care. Part of me thinks he will care since I will be the first of my 3 sisters to wed. But like I said, I really don't want one. Not only do we not have the father/daughter super close relationship, I also don't like people staring at me.
(Not to mention, just 2 weeks ago he told me he wasn't even going to come to the wedding because I wouldn't add my mother's brother's mother in law to the guestlist, so I don't feel particularly fond of my Father at this time. He also has not helped financially or emotionally with ANY of this wedding process.)
How should I approach my Father with this? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but like I said I don't want to do it. I don't want to be fake just to put on a show. I am not a fake person.
Thanks for any suggestions on how to handle this!
(I was going to tell him that we weren't doing it due to FIs mother's health issues & it wouldn't be right to do a F/D dance without a M/S dance.)