I've been engaged for several months. I haven't asked wp yet, but I've always known who it be. About a month ago my mom was talking to a girl at the salon we go to and she was telling her that maybe me and fi need to slow down and reconsider things. we haven't gone there long enough for her to make those judgements, but I have a couple of friends who do and I found out they have been talking to her about it. I confronted one of them and she told me that yes she had expressed her concerns but only to her husband and one other friend. She said she did this b/c she felt we were never happy when she saw us together. Ironically, she is the one who set us up and has taken credit for it to whomever says anything about us (before and after engagement). Anyway the thing is we've been friends forever, I was MOH in her wedding and she has no serious reasons to have her doubts. Yes FI and I have our fights. Yes, when I talk to my friends I don't hold back details about anything (we've been friends forever, why should I?) And yes, I tend to exaggerate things esp. when I'm upset and this is a trait my friends are well aware of. I guess my biggest problem is the fact that my friend who has been talking about me has no room to talk b/c she hasn't had the most perfect relationship. When said friend got engaged I could have brought up the past and how her and her husband had a relationship that was farrrrrrr from perfect and thrown a red flag, but being a good friend I am happy for her b/c I know she's happy and their relationship has progressed. As much as I have tried to forgive and forget I just can't get past this betrayal--why could she just not come to me instead of running her mouth to EVERYONE else. I planned on asking my WP within the next month, but now I don't even know how I could possibly ask her to be a part. Am I being childish by not letting this go or is this issue relevant enough to keep her out of the WP? Why would I want someone in the WP if she has her doubts (even though now she says she can see how happy and perfect we are together when she hangs out with us)? Ughhh dilemmas and drama!