I have seen wedding invitations where the type of dress expected is somehow on the invite. It says "black tie preferred" or whatever. Is anyone doing this? how are you getting across the formality of your wedding besides just the formality of the invitation. (i say that because half my family won't even think to look at the invitation as a clue to the formality and how to dress). Are you putting it on the invitation? on your website? word of mouth? hoping people just get it? I'm not sure what to do with this but you ladies always know!