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Friends as vendors? How do invitations work?

So I have 2 friends that are in the same band, and have graciously offered to play at my wedding. Of the 2 friends, one would definitely have been invited anyway, the other one, probably not (due to money/ food constraints) . There are also 2 other members of the band to which I don't really know. I wanted to let the close friend know he would have been invited even if his band wasn't playing at the reception, but I wasn't sure if that would be rude to the other members of the band?

I was also considering not sending them traditional invitations, but maybe just some kind of note saying that even though they are in the band, I still would like them at the wedding as guests, and spent at least part of the reception as mingling and eating guests?  Our wedding is not very formal, could I just send the good friend a message on Facebook letting him know all this, and tell him to let the other members know this as well?

Re: Friends as vendors? How do invitations work?

  • I would not just send one of the two an invitation.  The other one will wonder what the hell is going on when his partner gets an invitation and he does not.

    I would either send them all invitations, or don't send them any at all.  How are you planning on feeding them?  If you are planning on vendor meals, then don't send an invitation.  If you are planning on giving them a break to sit and eat the same meal as everyone else, then send them invitations.
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  • Yes, I was going to have them eat with everyone else. If I am going to send them all invitations, should I tell my friend to let them know to expect one? I don't want them to get this invitation like "Who the heck is this person?" XD
  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I'd just send an invitation to the two people you know. I don't think I'd find that odd.
    Lizzie
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