including kids in ceremony

Re: including kids in ceremony

• itzMS member

  

  January 2013

  I'm normally not a fan of keepsake gifts that aren't something they would enjoy other than to collect dust in a jewelry box or on a shelf. Wouldn't he much prefer something he's into now (toy, game, Ipod, etc) versus a keepsake?
  Though if you are dead-set on something comparable to what you're getting the daughters...
  
  Perhaps an heirloom quality leather-bound book or Bible with a special inscription/dedication? A watch (that he can grow into) with an engraving?
  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  January 2013

  This isn't something you should do DURING the ceremony. Your kids, while involved in your marriage, should not be part of the actual ceremony of binding you and your FI together. Give them gifts before. 

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• Peavy member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  Ditto misssunshine.  A wedding is between two consenting adults.  If you want to give something to the kids to commemorate the day, do it privately.  It has nothing to do with your wedding ceremony.
  
  ETA:  Just noticed you want to include them in the ceremony.  Please don't.  They aren't the ones getting married, just you and your FI. 

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• Simply Fated member

  

  January 2013

  I agree with pps.
  
  Before or after the ceremony would be a great time to give them a little gift, but during the ceremony is awful timing. You're not marrying them, lol.
  
  All the 8 year olds I know likes star wars (clone wars), video games, legos, and really loud music. What is your son into?

  
  

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• gymbugmj2k member

  

  January 2013

  I agree with PP.  Give them gifts at their own special moment with you two, NOT in the middle of the ceremony.
  Depending on what your son is into -- i agree with the watch idea, or maybe a pin or tie tack or something that he can use when he's dressed up.  that or some sort of engraved trinket -- piggy bank, 'stuff' box, etc.
  
  Truthfully, the only thing i would do with them during the ceremony is have them be 'seated' before your entrance....like you would do your mothers.  have them sit up front, and maybe give each one a rose to hold so that they can feel part of the 'special guests'.

  
  

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• ElcaB member

  

  January 2013

  What a great idea! I have to disagree with the others who advise against including your kids in the ceremony. My stepdad and mom gave my brother, sister, and I engraved jewelry during their ceremony and it was so special to us! It's something I'll always remember. If it's something you want to do, go for it! As for your son, maybe you could get him something sports relayed if he's a fan, like an autographed baseball or football jersey. Good luck!

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2013

  Do your kids actually even want to be in the ceremony?
  
  If they don't, please don't pressure them.  Kids with separated parents often have some very strong feelings about their parents' remarriages-and they're not always going to be smiley-faced about it. 
  
  And even if they do want to be in the ceremony, just have them as bridesmaids and groomsman, or flower girls and ring bearer, take some special pictures, and let it go at that.   Weddings are about the bride and groom.  Children are family members, but really shouldn't be stars of the show.

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• khelser02 member

  

  February 2013

  I think it is a great idea.  We are doing a sand ceremony.  We are also giving each of the ghirls a necklace (Family Tree) as we do the sand ceremony.  The Sand Ceremony follows the ceremony.   

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