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SaraAndrew2010 · June 2010

First of all, please don't do a tiered reception. Everyone you invite should be invited for the full event, including dinner. It's rude to tell people that they are good enough to come for dancing, but not to eat.

In terms of cutting off relatives, generally the way to do it without offending a bunch of people is to make decisions in circles. So you might decide to invite your aunts and uncles, but not your cousins. Or invite your first cousins, but not second cousins. People understand that sometimes you have to draw the line somewhere. This way is more evenhanded and doesn't seem like you are singling out particular relatives who you like or don't like.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

Dang, that was so fast I couldn't quote it!

SaraAndrew2010 · June 2010

Should have quoted it when I had the chance. Basically, she is having a hard time trimming her guest list down to only 200 people. She was asking if she could only invite the relatives she likes and not the ones she's less close to. However, she doesn't mind if the relatives come to the ceremony and after dinner for dancing, but they "have to be really strict on dinner."

squirrly · June 2010

To answer her question, then, I don't see the point in inviting people who aren't part of your life merely because their branch on your family tree has the same label as someone else you'll be inviting. You do need to be prepared for them to be potentially upset that you didn't invite one aunt but did invite another. So long as that's not an issue for you, then by all means - go ahead.

Do not, under any circumstances, for any reason, ever, EVER have a tiered wedding. Horrible.

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