First off, I don't know what I'd do without the Knotties!
Now, here's my question.
I have a bridesmaid who has a different mindset than the rest of our bridal party. My fiance and I are of the mindset that a marriage ceremony (and a wedding) are a big deal. We're saving and busting our butts to put together a nice afternoon reception for our family and friends to celebrate everything that they have done for us to support us through the years, as well as to celebrate the beginning of our new life together. We do not get a lot of time together due to his job and my current education plans.
Said bridesmaid is a very good friend who has been inredibly supportive of this relationship (and helped me through the distance meltdowns a few times), and it is very important that she be there with us on this day. However, she thinks that things like "funny pranks to pull on wedding pictures," snarky jokes in vows, joking about objecting, and cake toppers with brides dragging grooms to the altar are hilarious and belong at our wedding.
My fiance and I also balance some pretty tense family politics. Any jokes like that, or suggestions of smashing cake, or such, could seriously set off a firestorm between or within families.
I've still got plenty of time to talk to her about this and make sure that she understands that there is a time and place for these jokes, but our wedding ceremony is not that place.
Do you ladies have any suggestions for how to bring this up with her?
P.S. We're not completely uptight. We do plan to have games, music, and an afterparty. But the afternoon affair does involve some difficult family members.