I will be getting married next summer. My parents are divorced and, while they have finally come to terms with each other and can be civil (even friendly) for the weekend of the wedding, my stepmom (Kim) is the problem.
She hasn't been involved with my life since marrying my dad 3 years ago, and makes no effort until recently.
I invited her (on my father's insistance) to my first trip to try on dresses, and she made comments the entire day about how I shouldn't even bother with a white dress due to the fact that my finance and I have been living together for a year.
She is also insisting I invite her sisters and parents, along with her nieces/nephews and their children, even though we are trying to keep the invitees under 150 due to expenses.
Her final loving gift to us for our engagement was to toast at our dinner (uninvited), and say that, she and my father are trying to be loving, supportive parents, even though they don't agree with our relationship (I'm white and he's black).
Am I overreacting in the fact that I do not want her involved in my wedding and am debating asking her not to come? How can I address her comments and other issues while not sounding like a bridezilla?