Hi ladies...just looking for the blunt, honest truth here so lay it on me.
I'm in a destination wedding next summer where the bride and groom are paying for everything. Totally respect this, but the bride is insistent that no one gets a +1, not even people in steady relationships.
I've recently started dating someone and want to bring him to the resort for the week. Was emailing with one of the other bridesmaids and mentioned to her that I was going to bring the bf-not that I was bringing him to the wedding, but just on vacation for the week.
Fast forward a week....I got a snarky email from the bride saying that I should have gotten her permission before planning on bringing anyone with me. She apparently has "things for me to do" for at least three days of the seven that I'll be on vacation for her wedding and "he doesn't know anyone" so "would he really have a good time anyhow?"
I'm not trying to monopolize her wedding, but am I out of line for wanting to bring someone with me for the week? I told my fella already that he probably would have to have some solo time while I'm dealing with wedding stuff, and he was totally cool with that. As far as I was concerned it was a total non-issue, but she flipped out on me. I know people get stressed when they're in the throes of wedding planning, but my feelings are seriously hurt over this. I don't plan on losing a friend over something so trivial, but I'm not going to be pushed around either.
And um, what all am I gonna be doing for three days prior to a destination wedding? Anyone wanna clue me in before I have a sit down talk with my bride?