I have been lurking this board for a while, so I wanted to state first and foremost that I COMPLETELY agree that a bridesmaid/MOH has no duties other than getting a dress, showing up, and smiling. I agree they are not part of your planning process and should not be forced to do so.
That being said, I was wondering what y'all think of this. One of my good friends is getting married in June. Instead of having lots of bridesmaids, she picked her very best friend to be her one-and-only. The best friend is a girl we've all known for years.. she was the girl who always needed a ride somewhere, always needed someone pay for her movie ticket or bar cover, etc. But regardless, as long as she had a ride or something, she was there.
Well, now she has a job and a car and everything necessary. She did not show up to the designated date that her and the bride agreed upon to pick the bridesmaid dress. The bride was waiting at the bridal store for her, and the MOH texted 30 minutes after the designated time saying she forgot it was that day.. and that she needed a ride and was 1 hour away.
This hurt the bride's feelings but I guess she let it go and moved on. Well, yesterday was the bridal shower. The bride's mother and aunts hosted the shower for her. When I had been at the shower for about half and hour, I noticed the MOH wasn't there. I texted her asking here where she was (we were supposed to be meeting to plan the bachelorette after the shower) and she said she was 1.5 hours away and that she had JUST left and her car was making a weird noise so she turned around. Whether true or not, she had just left from 1.5 hours away and we were 30 minutes into the shower.
The bride has been hurt by this and you can tell.. but she's not caused any drama or "demoted" the MOH (understandably).
So I ask.. as much as we are against demoting bridesmaids here and I agree, what would you do with a MOH who did this to you?