Need Knottie Vibes & Prayers ASAP!!!! (long)

Re: Need Knottie Vibes & Prayers ASAP!!!! (long)

• Kedeisha8

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Sorry to hear about what happened but have they told you how the family fun day wont ruin your wedding is there another part of the church that only you will have access to and the family fun day will be held at the back perhaps find out the plan in its entirety, what time does your wedding start I know events end at 3 but some fols will still be there so call back and get all the deets dont worry as long as unwanted guest wont be walking down the aisle when you are there lets hope the church can ease your worry...knottie hugs girl don't worry the devil is not winning

  

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• mikimoto6

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I do think that an FYI call would have been nice.  At this point, we cannot change what the church didn't do. If they are working to try and still accommodate the solemnity of your wedding despite the double booking, roll with that and try to focus on the fact that you are getting married on Saturday.  Family day or not, your wedding will still go on.  Praying that you still can have the wedding of your dreams.  

  

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• Ksk2012

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Oh lordie!!! That is a lot.. I would have left that church too. I left one church because of rumors about a pastor having an affair and funneling money. He never confirmed it was not true, there was an article in the newspaper about it and I was just too through! So I OVERstand!!
  
  Now, yes they should have called you. If the family event is from 10-3.. what time is your wedding? Will everyone (like musicians and such) be available for your wedding or will they be at the family day? I agree with PP and get their schedule and maybe see if you could schedule a walk through today or tomorrow just to confirm where the family day activities will be happening and where and your wedding will take place. Like if you are getting dressed at the church will you have enough space to do so? Will there be conflicting music with your wedding and the family day? Will ushers be available to keep lookie-loos out in they are attending the family day and want to "crash" your wedding?
  
  Those are just some questions I would want to be cleared up!
  
  I believe it will all go well!
  
  

  

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• tcage001

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks ladies. My wedding starts at 3 and my florist will be there about 12 to set up. The sound tech and other people will be there for the wedding. We're getting to the church at 1:30 or 2. The church has a banquet facility that is on the other side of the church and that is where the family fun day is taking place. They did assure me that they would tell security to advise the familty fun day people and I'm going to have to let my coordinator and ushers know not to tet anyone come the way I will be walking fun. At this point I just have to let go and let God!
  
  They said it should be just about wrapped up at 3 so we'll see.

  

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• Soon2BSand

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Im confused... why are you upset again? because the family and friends day is at the church on your wedding day? Or are you still harboring (sp?) ill feelings towards him/the church because of what happened and any little thing will set you off?

  
  

  I don't see a reason to let this upset you. Even if there was a carnival going on in the basement you shouldn't let that affect what you and your future husband are doing on tha day.

  
  

  It's really ok... *hugs*

  
  130 Are on the way! The rest don't matter... FINAL COUNT~!

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• tcage001

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_need-knottie-vibes-prayers-asap-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:dcddb94b-7260-4d83-a6e1-ffe5e5495710Post:459e376f-a05b-4358-ba9c-81fd8643a4df">Re: Need Knottie Vibes & Prayers ASAP!!!! (long)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Im confused... why are you upset again? <strong>because the family and friends day is at the church on your wedding day?</strong> Or are you still harboring (sp?) ill feelings towards him/the church because of what happened and any little thing will set you off? I don't see a reason to let this upset you. Even if there was a carnival going on in the basement you shouldn't let that affect what you and your future husband are doing on tha day. It's really ok... *hugs*
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  Yes!!! I'm upset because it's the same day as the wedding and I just found out today. I'm wayyyyyyyyy over what happen and I don't have any hard feelings. I mention it to say that I have a history with the church and how it came about that I was having the wedding there. 
  
  At first I didn't know it was going to be on the other side. I just didn't want anything to disturb the wedding and I was concerend where my guest would park and things like that. I still think it's rude to book two big things in the same area on the same day. At this point I'm over it but just needed to vent a little first

  

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• shaneikaw member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I think that you really let this upset you b/c you were probably already at the edge and this is just something to push you over.  Honestly just take a step back and breath its going to be ok. Like you said you have a coordinator and ushers,, just for that purpose thats their jobs to make sure that everything goes as planned. so i would delegate them to do their jobs and not worry about it. Just step back and breath it's going to be ok. 
  
  As far as your feelings about the church and the pastor like you said you had to pray about it and God TOLD YOU to let him handle it, so you need to do just that let those feelings go and allow God to handle that man b/c when judgment day come he will have to answer to God about the things that he did or did not do. You have to let those things go, if not your going to be hurting yourself more than you need to.

  

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• djscat

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Girl I am praying for peace in your heart right now.  Take a deep breath.  Yes you have a right to be upset.  They should have notified you but as someone else said we can't change what has happened.  Focus on the fact that you and your FI will finally become one.  That is the point of the day.  All the rest is just cake.  Breath and know that your day will still be beautiful and special.  You will have people all around you who love you and support you.  They will not let any craziness happen to interfere with your special day.  As you said give it up to God and He will handle it.  It's all going to work out.  Don't allow the devil to steal your joy and for goodness sake do not allow the devil to ruin your wedding day.
  
  Put it into perspective.  What is the worse that could happen?  A few extra people hang around to see you in your dress or see you exchange vows with the man you love.  It will be okay. 

  

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• Ky925

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I know the situation is bothersome but just let it go and put it in God's hands and trust that your day will be wonderful.

  

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• faithlady

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm so sorry! I'd be peeved too, but you'll be so focused on the purpose of that day it won't bother you. sending calm vibes your way!

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• PB-Bride2010

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I would be livid too.....praying all goes well. Hugs and hang in there!!!

  

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• lil01

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I TOTALLY understand how you feel & how you may be concerned about the interference of stragglers from he family event. I definitely would be. But as others said, you just have to work around it & not let this ruin your mood. Have your ushers & security do their jobs, and make sure they have the space to accommodate you & your vendors before the ceremony. Everything will be fine!!!
  
  

  

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• JloveB

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Just breath, pray to God and leave it in his hands. It will work out, try not to stress and don't make a big deal out of it. Enjoy your day  and these days leading up to the wedding...don't let it fly by worrying about things you can't control like other people trying to steal that day from you,...in the end once you see your groom standing there looking at you like he did the first time he seen you just wrapped up in how gorgeous you look for him none of the extras little things seemed to matter... focus on the good stuff you have to look forward to.

  

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• PrettyCW5

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with all the ladies before me. Please don't let this stress you out. Your day will be beautiful and I'm pretty sure your coordinator, family, and friends will be working extra hard to make sure that you won't even know they're there. Enjoy your day. It's about you and your FH! Everything will be just fine. Leave it in God's hand ...and let it stay there! *Hugs*

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