I need an opinion about how much is too much for bride's maids and how little is too little.
My current plan is to buy customized spanish fans for my maids to walk down the aisle with. They aren't cheap, and I figure since they are not flowers that will eventually wilt, this could be considered a present. I am also purchasing their jewelry, necklace and earring set. I consider this to be also a part of their gifts for being my maids. In the end this will cost roughly around $65. Should I buy something else? Or does that qualify as a good gift for them?
I am spending more on my maid of honor. She has been so awesome so far, which is exactly why I picked her. She has stood up for me and held her ground for me and my decisions.
I have one bride's maid that feels I should buy her diamonds for her participation. I think this has to do with the wedding she was previously in where the bride bought all her maids matching diamond earrings and necklace, small, but pretty.
I'm not made of money and I worry of insulting anyone. I've already had minor issues with my maids over dresses, guests, and spending money for my wedding. I worry if I don't purchase enough or something they won't like, they will be disappointed and feel gilted.
My one bride's maid seems to be giving me the most issues about spending money, bringing a guest, and the date of my bachelorette party. She even said to me "who cares about the dress? I won't ever wear it again." Understandable, but I let my maids pick their dresses. I didn't pick a dress and say wear it. She is also the one expecting diamonds from me.
I feel so guilty right now. Like I am forcing them to do things they don't want to and I really am afraid of disappointing them with my gifts.
Any advice is welcome, good and bad.