Sooo FI got a text last night from his good friend/goomsman saying that he wanted to tell FI the night before when we were visiting, but he just couldn't, that he's decided not to be in the wedding, because he doesn't know if he'll still be in the US. He and his wife are from Russia, he's been here since high school, she's been here a year and 9 months. She doesn't speak the language, although he swears she understands it. They just had their second child - their oldest is 1 year, 4 days old. Their youngest is 2.5 weeks old. His wife hates it here, but what pisses me off is that she's made no effort to try and speak the language so that she can make friends. And she's the one who got pregnant as soon as she got here, then decided she wanted ANOTHER one before their oldest was even close to being out of diapers. I guess what sucks for us the most is that he was such a good friend and things have changed so much. I understand that when you get married and have kids priorities change, but you shouldn't be totally absorbed by your significant other. Me and my BFF have tried to make his wife feel welcome, but you can only do so much when you can't talk with someone. We handmade both of their kids baby blankets, bought them tons of clothes when their first daughter was born, brought them over dinner... UGH!
Anyway, FI has to decide if he's going to pick another groomsmen, and if so, who it'll be.