Hello all! I need help. My fiance and I are getting married in Hawaii with receptions in each of our respective hometowns. We are very low-key people who want a SMALL, intimate wedding. We are hosting receptions in each of our cities so that we can celebrate with more people and so that we don't put the burdeon of traveling/cost of traveling on our guests. We were thinking of sending invites out to only those we REALLY want at our wedding (not even all of our immediate families) then invites to everyone (extended family, friends, other immediate family, co-workers) for the receptions. How do we do this withoug offending those not invited to the Hawaiian wedding? We do not have dates set for the receptions, so sending out save the dates at the same time of sending the wedding invites out (at this point) isn't likely. Do we wait until we have dates for everything? Do we send invites to everyone and cross our fingers that only the ones we "want" can make it? I'm at a loss. I don't want to offend anyone. Please help. Thanks so much.