I'm going to try to make this as short as I can given the details of our situation. Thank you for reading, I am truly tore up about this right now, and would love opinions and advice from an 'outsiders' point of view.
2008- I was in a "dating" relationship with a man and got pregnant 2 months into it. He had 3 other children, full custody of one, and joint (half & half) with the other 2. We both kind of freaked out, hormones got the best of me and I broke it off. I had 1 other child from a previous relationship as well.
Fast forward to now.....We have been back together for 4 months now. Things are good between us, and we're happy together. Our daughter is almost 3 years old now. We basically jumped into this head first and moved really quick. I was living with him within 2 weeks.......He has a demanding work schedule and works from 9am-9pm 6 days a week. I have taken on full responsibility of cleaning, cooking, taking care of his one child full time, plus my own. His other two are here for half of the week, every week, and I take care of them as well; homework, baths, washing clothes, feeding, etc.
When and if I bring up marriage, he gets FURIOUS. Says he doesn't want to get married, doesn't need a "piece of paper", and that it means nothing to him. I on the other hand, believe very much in being married BEFORE living together (a lot of details on how I got here), and have pushed my beliefs aside to be here. When I try to stress to him how much it means to me, and that going to bed together every night not being married bothers me, he says that I'm "pressuring him" and trying to "force" him into something he doesn't want to do. I tell him that I understand it won't be tomorrow, and am willing to wait, but just want to know that it's a goal we're working for. He says "it's not." And that "If I ever want to put a ring on your finger, I will. Leave me alone about it, it pisses me off."
On the other hand, he introduces me as his "FIANCEE"!!! Because he doesn't like the way girlfriend sounds. But then expects me NEVER to bring it up.
I'm considering packing up and leaving. I feel like I'm good enough to do everything else in this house, including raising HIS children, but not good enough for him to be married to. If it's nothing to him, yet so much to me, why wouldn't he just do it? So many questions...Just looking for some advice. Thanks!