I'm deleting this.

krystallovesjeff18 · June 2012

mbcdefg · June 2012

You're creating your own sticky situation here by thinking that you need a replacement MOH and that you need an even bridal party. Leave your bridal party the way it is and do not bring in replacements, and you will be fine. You will create drama, headaches and hurt feelings if you start bringing in slotfillers. Seriously, who the hell cares if you have uneven sides or no MOH?

Maggie0829 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:185c3bea-86dd-43f5-8ee0-d1709f3b66b6">Re:Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]You're creating your own sticky situation here by thinking that you need a replacement MOH and that you need an even bridal party. Leave your bridal party the way it is and do not bring in replacements, and you will be fine. You will create drama, headaches and hurt feelings if you start bringing in slotfillers. Seriously, who the hell cares if you have uneven sides or no MOH?
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

This.

I honestly stopped reading your post after I got to the part when you said "my MOH position has freed up." Your MOH dropped out for a very personal reason. Don't you think it would hurt her feelings if you replaced her?

Just leave everything the way it is.

aerinpegadrak · June 2012

When it was looking a little iffy if MOH could make it, I told her that she was still my MOH no matter what.

pkontk · June 2012

Ditto PPs. It sounds like your good friend/former MOH is going through a really rough time in her life. If you were to replace her, it would be hurtful. Do you really want to do that to your friend when she already has a lot on her plate?

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

OP - I'll be honest. I am not even going to try to make it through that wall of text. Next time use paragraphs (Hit the enter button twice at the end of a paragraph). I do know the ladies who have responded well enough to ditto their advice.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

Don't replace your MOH.

andrea2473 · June 2012

Just keep your wedding party the way it is.

mbcdefg · June 2012

I don't think you know what the word "attack" actually means.

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:3c874192-2a22-4108-8440-65a457b7c53a">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]thanks for the help.Now to keep everyone updated..because I just spoke to Maria after reading your posts. Maria told me flat out.. ask Danyel. She said her feelings were not hurt, and that she just wants to make sure that Danyel and Melissa didn't fight. She FELT bad for dropping out and I told her "Maria, I've been handling it on my own, I still want you to walk with the girls and everything"..and she said she doesn't feel strong enough and that right now that this is something she wants to handle on her own. I said "If you need to talk, I will be here whenever." She would tell me if her feelings were hurt.So, what I've decided to do was, if Maria is doing better by then I'm going to have her walk WITH danyel, and when I told Maria that she was EXCITED! :) So I guess it all worked out which is a lot of relief. I<strong> would ALSO like to address the previous poster GoodLuckBear14...if I'm not mistaken, I'm not at school, so the way i punctuate things or not is NONE of your business. If you don't like the way the something in MY post is...and if you didn't "read" it you have no business commenting on it. I asked for your advice, reaching out to other brides. I didn't ask you to personally attack the way I punctuate things. I reported you for a personal attack.
</strong>Posted by krystallovesjeff18[/QUOTE]

No you are not in school. You are on a public board where your written word is how you present yourself. Before you get your knickers in a twist, understand that it was advice to you if you want people to read your post. I'm not the only one who could not get through it. If you want the help of others, you should make it as easy as possible for them to read what you wrote.

I had every "business" commenting the way I did and it was not an attack. Learn to differentiate an attack from advice or you are going to have a really rough time here.

Maggie0829 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:3c874192-2a22-4108-8440-65a457b7c53a">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]thanks for the help.Now to keep everyone updated..because I just spoke to Maria after reading your posts. Maria told me flat out.. ask Danyel. She said her feelings were not hurt, and that she just wants to make sure that Danyel and Melissa didn't fight. She FELT bad for dropping out and I told her "Maria, I've been handling it on my own, I still want you to walk with the girls and everything"..and she said she doesn't feel strong enough and that right now that this is something she wants to handle on her own. I said "If you need to talk, I will be here whenever." She would tell me if her feelings were hurt.So, what I've decided to do was, if Maria is doing better by then I'm going to have her walk WITH danyel, and when I told Maria that she was EXCITED! :) So I guess it all worked out which is a lot of relief. <strong>I would ALSO like to address the previous poster GoodLuckBear14...if I'm not mistaken, I'm not at school, so the way i punctuate things or not is NONE of your business. If you don't like the way the something in MY post is...and if you didn't "read" it you have no business commenting on it. I asked for your advice, reaching out to other brides. I didn't ask you to personally attack the way I punctuate things. I reported you for a personal attack.
</strong>Posted by krystallovesjeff18[/QUOTE]

Wow, she in no way attacked you and definitely did not deserve to be reported. She was right in saying that you need to learn use paragraphs in your posts. Reading a huge wall of text without any breaks in between paragraphs is extremely hard for us to do. She was just giving you advice for future posts so that the other members on this board will not have any trouble reading your question.

Also, we tend to tell posters, especially newer one's, that using proper grammar and spelling is nice because it makes reading posts easier and it also makes the poster seem mature and real as opposed to some people who come on this site just to stir up trouble.

aerinpegadrak · June 2012

Your words are the one and only thing you have to represent yourself here. If you don't care about what you're saying, what makes you think we will? It's a text-based medium. The text matters. More and more of our lives are being lived through writing, and if you think that it has no place outside of school, you're not going to find yourself with a place in the real world.

For the record, I didn't even attempt to read either of your posts, because they're unreadable. I've based my responses on the posters that I could read.

andrea2473 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:3c874192-2a22-4108-8440-65a457b7c53a">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]thanks for the help.Now to keep everyone updated..because I just spoke to Maria after reading your posts. Maria told me flat out.. ask Danyel. She said her feelings were not hurt, and that she just wants to make sure that Danyel and Melissa didn't fight. She FELT bad for dropping out and I told her "Maria, I've been handling it on my own, I still want you to walk with the girls and everything"..and she said she doesn't feel strong enough and that right now that this is something she wants to handle on her own. I said "If you need to talk, I will be here whenever." She would tell me if her feelings were hurt.So, what I've decided to do was, if Maria is doing better by then I'm going to have her walk WITH danyel, and when I told Maria that she was EXCITED! :) So I guess it all worked out which is a lot of relief. I would ALSO like to address the previous poster GoodLuckBear14...if I'm not mistaken, I'm not at school, so the way i punctuate things or not is NONE of your business. If you don't like the way the something in MY post is...and if you didn't "read" it you have no business commenting on it. I asked for your advice, reaching out to other brides. I didn't ask you to personally attack the way I punctuate things. I reported you for a personal attack.
Posted by krystallovesjeff18[/QUOTE]

She was just trying to tell how to make your posts more readable so you can get better feedback. Easy on that report button.

But back to the follow-up from your OP, I still don't think you should change anything. Maria might be okay with it, but Danyel doesn't need to be "promoted". Just don't have a MOH. You already picked one. She can't do it anymore. Danyel shouldn't have to be the second string.

G2SoccerTaz · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:45220b3a-9ab3-4d58-83f6-4c387f7d19dc">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>OP - I'll be honest. I am not even going to try to make it through that wall of text. Next time use paragraphs (Hit the enter button twice at the end of a paragraph).</strong> I do know the ladies who have responded well enough to ditto their advice.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I agree with the bolded. I could not even make it throught the first few lines. Paragraphs are your friend. Try to use them.

Kate61487 · June 2012

Holy wall o' text, Batman.

I'm okay with you asking Danyel to be in your BP because you should have asked her in the first place (or you did ask her and while she originally declined now she's decided she CAN do it? not really clear on that). Do I think you should 'promote' her to MOH? no, because you shouldn't replace anyone in your BP. Clearly you're not going to listen to us on that one, so it is what it is.

As for your FSIL, she should be a grown up and put aside her personal issues for a day. I'm not sure why she'd hate her ex's sister, there's no sense hating the family of an ex. Hopefully she won't make an issue of it.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

Yeah, FWIW, I didn't read your post either OP. I skimmed until I got to the "MOH spot opened up part" and also based my response on trusted posters who DID read it. You were way out of line to report her, as she absolutely did NOT attack you. She gave you advice for posting on the boards. If the only way you communicate with us is through written word, you should use proper spelling and grammar and break up long walls of text, so people can read it more easily.

No, you're not in school, but does that mean that just because we're no longer in school we can write using crappy spelling and grammar and throw everything we learned out the window? I think not. People take you a lot more seriously when you take your writing more seriously.

aragx6 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:b9be1d3c-ba57-4af9-9273-585f1f0734f3">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]Holy wall o' text, Batman. I'm okay with you asking Danyel to be in your BP because you should have asked her in the first place (or you did ask her and while she originally declined now she's decided she CAN do it? not really clear on that). Do I think you should 'promote' her to MOH? no, because you shouldn't replace anyone in your BP. Clearly you're not going to listen to us on that one, so it is what it is. As for your FSIL, she should be a grown up and put aside her personal issues for a day. I'm not sure why she'd hate her ex's sister, there's no sense hating the family of an ex. Hopefully she won't make an issue of it.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this.

And OP, don't get upset about what was well meaning advice. Your post was difficult to read and you'd get more and better advice if that weren't the case. You had one sentence in there that was at least 50 words -- I honestly got lost.

Maggie0829 · June 2012

Wow, someone doesn't like to be told when they are wrong.

And seriously, the crying sad face icon. No one was mean enough to deem that appropriate...and in all reality no one was mean to you at all, that is until you reported someone for giving you well meaning advice.

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:90eeaf3d-1b6f-4b56-b3b2-9ff687e454c5">Re: Kinda in a sticky situation..</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kinda in a sticky situation.. : FTFY.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Watch out. She may come back and report you for being helpful. :) Have to say, I felt a bit like Brooke this morning.

Kate61487 · June 2012

Just for fun: the OP

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:850664bd-5a7b-45e5-8134-cf9eda3bc08b">I'm deleting this.</a>:
[QUOTE] Ok. Ladies. This is gonna be a long long post. So get you're tea/coffee/soda/water ect lol and get ready. <div>The drama all started about a year ago..when my Fiance's sister (Melissa) broke off her engagement with her fiance (gerodin). (this will pertain to my problem I swear, keep reading.) Now, it wasn't a terrible thing for her, because she had broken up with him due to the fact she wanted to date his best friend (dave) , they began talking during the end of her previous relationship, and she decided Dave was what was best for her...Now that you know that, I can fill you in on the rest. Last week (4 months til the wedding) my good friend, and maid of honor (Maria) began to have some home troubles, her mother is battling sobriety, and she needs to free up all of her time in order to take care of her, I don't resent her,I'm not mad, nothing underlying about it.... she's still welcome to come to the wedding, there's no issue there. I'm just glad she told me sooner than later..So, the position of my MOH has freed up. My fiance's two sisters(Chrissy & Melissa) , and a girl that I work with (Gina) are in the wedding party. Now...for the sticky stuff..Remember Geordin? Well, His sister, is MY best friend (Danyel). The reason I didn't ask her in the first place, was because she was battling some personal issues of her own, and she told me herself that she thought it would be better that I'd ask our other best friend (Maria), to be the maid of honor. Now, Maria called me Last week to tell me that she is having these home problems and needs some time to take care of them, I'm a pretty understanding girl, so of course I said no problem. Honestly, Maria hasn't done much for the wedding, and since then, Danyel has resolved her home issues, and has been helping me and my fiance ALOT with the wedding. She lives 10 minutes up the street, and she's over my house atleast 2-3 times a week. Maria, Danyel & I grew up together, but Maria moved away, still in the state, but about 45 minutes to and hour away, so needless to say we don't see her that often, we talk every other day on the phone or the computer, (the 3 of us) but she really has a lot going on. Now, I spoke to Maria and she thinks that I should absolutely ask Danyel to be my Maid of Honor because she's been helping me anyway..but I still feel a little bit bad (but still not the problem). Ok, so Melissa...is a bit of a drama queen, and kinda a little bitchy, she's nice Sometimes, but she gets moody..which is ok, that's just her, and for as long as I've been with my fiance, we haven't really had a problem, we get along. Melissa HATES Danyel, because Danyel is Geordin (her ex) sister. Don't ask me why. I didn't want to get into their issues, but now I really want to ask Danyel, but I don't want to create a problem. The order I'm having the girls walk to the aisle is Danyel first, Gina second, Chrissy third, and Melissa fourth, so they will be as far away from each other as possible. I just need some advice on how to handle this. I know it's my wedding, but I'm pretty laid back and I HATE drama. Other than our parents, Danyel really has been the only one helping with the DIY, and the planning and everything. So, I really need your help..Do I have Danyel in my wedding or do I not have her in the wedding to avoid drama with Melissa..and if I don't have Danyel in the wedding I will be short a bridesmaid to his groomsmen, and I really don't have anyone else to ask. I'm the only girl out of all of my cousins, and I'm not super close with anyone else in my family, other than my mom and my grandmother, so I could use some advice. Thanks for reading.
Posted by krystallovesjeff18[/QUOTE]

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GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

Kate - you're going to have to tell me have you did that after she DD'd

OBX2011 · June 2012

How does one double quote? I have yet to master the skill of double quoting 2 people at the same time.

Quote fail, party of 1 please

Maggie0829 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:8344cdf2-a36d-4599-9e7e-68a131295a1e">Re: I'm deleting this.</a>:
[QUOTE]How does one double quote? I have yet to master the skill of double quoting 2 people at the same time. Quote fail, party of 1 please :)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

I have always wondered this as well. Please enlighten me!

aerinpegadrak · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kinda-in-a-sticky-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:ec4ba4d1-9bcf-47e8-bc4d-5a5c477e4503Post:f679138d-c7d9-4b7d-9005-eed52e2d1aef">Re: I'm deleting this.</a>:
[QUOTE] <span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">How does one double quote? I have yet to master the skill of double quoting 2 people at the same time. </span>

<span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">Quote fail, party of 1 please :)</span> [/QUOTE]
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</div><div>[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm deleting this. : I have always wondered this as well. Please enlighten me!
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

</div><div>1. Copy the first person's post</div><div>2. Reply to the second one.</div><div>3. Put the [QUOTE*] [/QUOTE*] tags (no *) around the first one.</div><div>
</div><div>Ta da!</div>

Kate61487 · June 2012

To double quote you quote once, then copy the text as well as the coding (before clicking post). Then go back to the post and click quote on the 2nd one you want and paste in the first quote.

As for quoting after she DD'd I found the cached page, copied the text directly from there and then insterted it into the quote code to get it in the blue box. Not sure how long the cached page will stay the original after a DD, but apparently I was quick enough this time :-)

ETA: to clarify I went to the google cached page, that's why it will eventually disappear. Presumably if you'd seen the OP you could find it in your own cache, but I'm not sure how to find that...

Viczaesar · June 2012

Why do people have such a hard time grasping the point that the reason you learn things like spelling, grammar, and punctuation in school is so that you can use those tools OUTSIDE of school in order to effectively communicate with other human beings?

ambersthebride · June 2012

Ask Danyel!!!

Lethinagrl5 · June 2012

Haha this post became very entertaining...

I'm deleting this.

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