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feeling a little behind...

heybekaruthheybekaruth
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ok...so i went to dinner tonight for one of my friend's birthday.

so...at a table of 10 girls...3 of us had gotten engaged in the last few weeks.  now...one of the girls is getting married the same day as us (i just met her tonight...so don't think i planned my wedding on the same day as a close friend!)...and the other is getting married in april.

but both have ordered their dresses, selected bridesmaid dresses (which means they have decided on a wedding party and asked them!)...discussed save the dates and knew where they are going on their honeymoon!!  i seriously think my face turned white as i just stared at them in disbelief!  i mean...i have spent all my energy the last two weeks just trying to pindown the venue and church!

please tell me they are just over zealous!!!

they made me feel like i have done NOTHING!  i could not believe that they had done so much! 
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  • Beth0882Beth0882 member
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    edited December 2011
    all the things they have done are not things you have to do that far in advance!  definetely getting the venue booked, and different vendors, such as photographer and dj are the first steps to get through.  the rest can be done much later.  save the dates are typically sent out about 6 months in advance if you do them -- and if you get them from somewhere like vistaprint, it doesn't take that long to get them in, so its not like you need to plan months in advance for them.

    Focus on getting you venue booked -- once that is done, things will start falling into place!  There are people who plan weddings in a lot less time than 9 months so you can do it! Honestly, after booking my big vendors, I went several months without doing much at all.  I think around teh 6 month mark I kicked it up a bit, and then there was another lull until around the 3-4 month mark where I realized i better get moving!
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  • sunnysarahinNCsunnysarahinNC
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    edited December 2011
    yeah girl! don't feel behind!

    you've set a date...get a place...then go from there! any vendor you meet with will probably want to know when and where (hehe!), and it will help you determine who you want to use. my venue doesn't do too too many weddings, and the space is a little funky layout wise...so I made sure I chose a caterer and DJ that had worked it before!

    i'm a may wedding, and I booked my venue/church about a year out...and my other major vendors this summer (july/august). plus, you never want to rush into those big decisions like your dress! :)
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  • FutureMrsFraserFutureMrsFraser
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think you are behind, just like Beth said there are more important things to worry about first other than the things they have gotten done. I also wouldn't reccommend picking your bridal party that soon anyway because you'd be surprised how much things can change in that amount of time.
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  • hmz819hmz819
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    edited December 2011
    Pick your venues first.  Then worry about the rest.  You'll see once you have your venues the rest will fall into place.
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  • GirlieGirl27320GirlieGirl27320 member
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    Try not to compare your planning to anyone else's....that's my tidbit of advice.  You can take it for what it's worth, but that was what helped me get through this whole process with some sanity!  There are brides on other boards getting married the same day as me ( and much later, too) that have been completetly finished with absolutely everything for months....but I've learned that due to financial matters, I would have never been able to have everything ready in advance.  It's just one of those things, you know?  You still have time to sort out all the details!


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  • SassyPants150SassyPants150 member
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    edited December 2011
    Like everyone else...don't feel behind!

    A friend of mine has nearly done everything for her wedding and its OVER a year away...different strokes for different folks.  No worries!

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  • CJ4578CJ4578 member
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    edited December 2011
    What Leigh Anne said- everyone plans things differently. I had some things decided about a year out, but there were other things I left until 4 months, even 4 weeks (ie I haven't figured them out yet...) Go with what's important to you, and plan in that order- that's what helped me. (Photographer- most important thing to me, so that's the second thing we did after venue. Food- also important to both of us, so that was third. Other things like DJ and Cake we left until later because they were lower on our priority list.) We didn't even book our honeymoon until about 2 weeks ago.

    All that was meant to say- you're good! Don't worry! And as always, your dogs are super cute. :)
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  • heybekaruthheybekaruth
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    edited December 2011
    thanks, ladies!  you all already made me feel so much better! 

    now that we are sending in all the deposits for the venue, church, photographer - i kinda just want to take a break and enjoy being engaged.  i'm sure we will start looking at bridesmaid dresses, flowers, etc.  and i'd like to send out save the dates in november...but other than that...i'd kinda like to take a break until after the holidays.

    then come the new year, start diving into planning!  thanks again!
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  • amandaandkyleamandaandkyle
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    edited December 2011
    We took quite a while to enjoy being engaged.  As in, we got engaged in November and I really did nothing as far as wedding planning other than we sort of discussed seasons and a date we'd LIKE to have for 3 months.  I didn't officially set a date until May 1st. 

    I enjoyed that a bunch.  But as all the PP's have said, everyone is different! 
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