My guest list significantly outnumbers my fiance's. A large portion of it is due to the number of kids in my family. My parents have asked that I invite the family that was invited to both of my sisters' weddings (10+ years ago) and I'm not that close to those family memebers anymore. Some of the families have 4+ kids under 16. But then there are some families that we are close to that have little kids who we want to invite. Are we able to pick and choose the families who we want to invite their kids? Whats the best way of going about it?
Also, how do we distinguish between a family that has kids who are 20, 17, 10, and 8? Are we able to invite the older ones and not the younger?