Sorry guys, but I just really need to vent about this, and it probably will not flow right, so please bare with me. My FI's sister has been driving us up a friggin wall ever since we got engaged. And it all started with a stupid card box.......
She asked me if she could make us the box for our reception, and I didn't mind because she's incredibly crafty, and i thought it was a nice gesture. Well, apparently making a card box also means that she now feels the need to "advise" us on every move we make, including things that have NOTHING to do with the wedding! She and her husband are worse off financially than we are (granted our money tree died a long time ago), yet she is always telling us how we can "better" budget our wedding, even though we're cutting as many corners as possible, because we are paying for everything ourselves. I find it funny how her "suggestions" are things she did at her own wedding- 15 years ago. She continually makes comments (probably in good nature, but I see it as being a nag) about how I shouldn't go back to school just yet (I'm a new LPN wanting to go for my RN), but then "reminds" us of "Well your going back to school right?", as if I'm not a real nurse or something.
Then there's the guest list- When we first started putting together our list, she sent me this long Facebook message telling me of all of the people from their side of the family that we "had" to invite. My future FIL doesn't even SPEAK to 3/4 of his family (He lives in NJ, his family is in CA). I about freaked when I saw this list because it's all these people that my FI didn't even know existed, including this persons 3 kids, and that persons 2 kids (we've made it VERY known that we are having an adults only wedding). Thankfully, when we ran the list by my FI's parents, they automatically vetoed just about everyone on it. Apparently, SIL thought we should invite them because SHE"S FRIENDS WITH THEM ON FACEBOOK. Last time I checked this was our wedding, thanks....
Her latest thing is trying to con us into extra gift registries at stores that we really don't care for (we're registered at BB&B, so it's not like we don't have gifts in every price range to make things affordable) just because that's where their brother and his wife registered. She has also tried to get us to change our minds on gifts because she had a cheaper version of it in her house somewhere that she could just wrap up and give us instead. WHAT??!
Outside of the wedding, she's a total narc. My FI has found that things that she finds out through the grape vine has gone straight back to his parents, through the mouth of his sister. My other sister in law, who,m I get along with just fine, said she also had issues like this with her. She was telling people to ignore their gift registry and shop at the stores that she thought they should have registered at, etc. Don't get me wrong, I'm really trying to keep telling myself that she just wants to help and doesn't realize how intrusive she is coming off. She's a nice woman, but I just can't take it. 3/4 of everything she says to us about anything is always negative, but my FI says she has always been that way.
Ok, I think I'm done. Again, my apologizes to anyone who had to suffer though my long and awkwardly flowing rant, but I had to vent it somehow.
