Hello! I wondered what you all thought about the predicament I find myself in.
My good friend and bridesmaid offered to throw me a couples shower to celebrate my June wedding.. I initially said yes and thanked profusely. She got engaged over NYE, and will be married this October in Alabama - which, I hate to say, is a trip that I cannot afford. We've been friends for 10+ years, but we have to pay for my own wedding + honeymoon, which were booked before her engagement. I hate it, but money doesn't grow on trees.
After she got engaged, I didn't hear anything about the shower, so I figured it was scrapped to further focus on her own wedding -- totally okay! But today she shoots me a message asking me if I was still interested in having her throw me one. This presents a unique opportunity. I can gracefully decline, or continue to accept.
Because of the fact that I'm unable to attend her wedding (haven't yet told her - I want to do it in person and it's been snowstorming here in Kansas), am I correctly thinking that I should politely decline the invitation for her and her mom to throw me a shower?