A friend of mine moved across the country a couple years ago. He usually comes back to visit around his birthday once a year. He makes a facebook note or group for his home coming and tags or invites the people he wants to see while he's home and asks us to make plans that fits into his schedule.
His Birthday was Feb 18th and aside from writing on his facebook wall I didn't really hear freom him. He's still a valued friend but his life has taken off there and in his absance my life has taken off here. We haven't really had much contact in the time that he's been gone, which is understandable. We've both become very busy people.
I got a facebook message Monday night asking if I could meet up on Wednesday because he was home but leaving Thursday morning. Turns out he's been home for about a week. Before he left I was working part time from home. I was single, lived on my own and was a go with the flow kind of girl.
I work 52 hours a week now in an office type setting now and am starting up a home based baking business. I'm engaged, live with my fiancee and our 2 dogs. I'm busy all the time and am super organized. I don't even live in the same city anymore and am half an hour out from where he is.
I offered to meet him around 7:30 as I finish work at 7pm. He tells me that he has dinner plans with another friend and that I would need to meet him later on in the evening.
Seeing how it's a Wednesday night, I need to leave my house by 7:30am tomorrow to work another 10+ hour shift. I hadn't intended on staying out tonight. I was going to go home, make dinner, and sleep. The next opportunity to see him will be when he comes back for the wedding.
I'm not really sure what to do here. Do I suck it up, wait for him to be free and run the risk of being super tired at work Thursday or do I tell him that I'm unavailable and that I'm sorry I wasn't able to meet up?