I know I have posted about a similar annoyance before, but I am having the same issue again.
Obviously you all know we are looking for a house. BIL 1 has a townhouse which he couldn't really afford when he bought it with his then FI, and now really can't afford it now that he lost his job and had to take a lower paying one and he broke up with his FI. He is unable to sell it because of the market. BIL 1 (and really BIL 2 also) are not the greatest with financial decisions, but I won't go into that in detail.
All we keep hearing from ILs are that they don't want us to be house-poor and how maybe we should wait to buy a house, and how terrible it is to buy a house and then have an unexpected change where it causes problems financially. I want to shake them. First, I don't want to hear it. Second, H is their responsible child, and we have budgeted an overestimated amount for entertainment expenses because we don't want that either.
I'm not sure if it is just that they are negative all the time (which seems to be true) or that they are taking BIL 1's bad decisions out on H. Any idea of change or any undertaking involving any sort of risk, even the most minor amount, sets them into a tizzy. I am just not sure how to deal with my frustration. It is getting to the point where if I personally have to hear about it anymore, I might get a little rude about it. I am trying to avoid talking to them right now, but it is at the point where I don't want to involve them in any news.
Oh, and in other news, BIL 2 told H that he is saving up for a ring for his gf. They have been dating quite a long time now, maybe a year and a half? MIL's response "Well he is just saving. A lot can happen between now and then." Because that is a nice thing to say. Jesus.
So vent over, but if anyone has any tips for dealing with this?