Thank you cards

Re: Thank you cards

• banana468 member

  

  August 2012

  It can be awkward to send a TY note to those who didn't send gifts.
  
  The other issue is that you shouldn't wait to send TY notes until the photo comes in if you're getting gifts now. 

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• LiLe422 member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-you-cards-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c986ada-640f-4e53-b008-b00b1e86ca0bPost:73acf093-8b29-4c19-8f99-0035b4df5409">Thank you cards</a>:
  [QUOTE]We are planning to use a wedding photo of us holding a thank you sign and printing it as postcards for our Thank You cards. I wanted to send a card to everyone on our list, even those that could not attend.  <strong>Some of the people who don't attend may not send gifts (which is totally fine), is it weird to send them a "thank you" card?</strong> <strong>Should we have a different set of postcards for these people?</strong> <strong>I don't want to seem like we're trying to remind them they didn't send a gift...</strong>
  Posted by kittiei[/QUOTE]
  
  Q 1. Yes.  If they didn't attend or give you a gift, what exactly would you be thanking them for?
  Q 2. No.  Send them a post card for what reason?
  Bold 3.  Its seems that you are.

  
  

  
  
  

  

  
  
  

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• Avion22 member

  

  August 2012 edited August 2012

  I now you don't mean it this way, but sending a thank you card to someone who didn't attend (or who attended but didn'NDEAnd a gift) can come across as gift grabby -- like you are reminding them that they didn't get you anything....again, I'm sure this isn't what you intend, but it might come across that way.

  

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• Carson386 member

  

  August 2012

  Don't send a gift to anyone that didn't attend and didn't send a gift, it's kind of like a slap in the face that they didn't do either. As for the picture- get it done ASAP.

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• kittiei member

  

  August 2012

  Thanks for your replies.  I won't send anything to people who didn't attend or send a gift.  Our photographer is a friend of ours and she plans to get the digital photos back to us by the time we return from our honeymoon (we're leaving a couple of days after the wedding).  I will have the TY cards sent out most likely by the end of September.
  

  

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• kikirst33 member

  

  August 2012

  I would also recommend some type of personal message.  I've gotten photo thank you cards in the past with not even a personal signature on it and is just made me wonder if they really cared about my gift or my presence at their wedding.

  

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• kittiei member

  

  August 2012

  I plan on writing a personal note on the back of the postcard.  I will send them in evelopes and not as actual "postcards".

  

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• Kate61487 member

  

  August 2012

  If there's like a great aunt or someone who can't attend that you really think would want to see a wedding photo you could always just send a 'thinking of you' card and put in a 3x5.  Some people also will do a wedding photo on their christmas card (not one with a 'thank you' sign, obviously).  So you have other options if you want them.

  

   
  

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• ljsquintz member

  

  August 2012

  I was going to suggest the same thing PP did - pick another wedding photo of you and H and send that out in your holiday cards.  This way everyone will have a picture of you from your wedding day, whether or not they attendedyou wedding/sent a gift.

  

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• ginadog member

  

  August 2012

  You can look at it this way - if they attended your wedding and reception, and did not get a gift, then you already thanked them for their attendance with the lovely reception you had!

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2012

  I read some where that you only have to send thank you cards to those who attend (gift or no gift) and to those who didn't attend but sent gifts. So a card that says thank you should be fine.

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• loca4pook member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-you-cards-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c986ada-640f-4e53-b008-b00b1e86ca0bPost:73acf093-8b29-4c19-8f99-0035b4df5409">Thank you cards</a>:
  [QUOTE]We are planning to use a wedding photo of us holding a thank you sign and printing it as postcards for our Thank You cards. I wanted to send a card to everyone on our list, even those that could not attend.  Some of the people who don't attend may not send gifts (which is totally fine), is it weird to send them a "thank you" card? Should we have a different set of postcards for these people? I don't want to seem like we're trying to remind them they didn't send a gift...
  Posted by kittiei[/QUOTE]
  
  Yes, I would find it weird to receive a thank you card for an event I di not attend or send a gift to..In fact, I might think it was meant as sarcasm or as "thanks for a hell lot of nothing" actually..

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