Check or add to my etiquette please :)

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  July 2012

  I wouldn't send engagement announcements out.  Word gets around, especially if many of your guests use facebook.  Also, I have only ever seen them in newspapers.
  
  As PP, keep FB updates to a minimum.  I highly doubt you will be inviting every single one of your FB friends to your wedding so talking non-stop about it may either give them the impression they are invited or annoying the crap out of them.
  
  Wedding announcements can seem gift grabby and I really only think necessary if you have a very small wedding (immediate family only) or if you elope.  Other then that, again, word gets around.

  
  

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• specialk84

  

  July 2012

  No engagement announcements. 

  
  

  Keep FB stuff to a minimum. People don't care nearly as much as you do.

  
  

  Announcements only go to those who were NOT INVITED, not people who didn't attend. Some people think they're really gift-grabby. I don't. We had a small-ish wedding and my father sent them to extended family members.

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• helleb member

  

  July 2012

  Thank you   Our wedding is super small closest family and friends.  My side is over 100 and his is 5 without friends so we are keeping the guest list to 50 to 80. Immediate family (25) Aunts and Uncles only, no cousins, no coworkers, and only closest friends (10 which includes their partners/guests.
  
  I guess I was thinking more of save the dates instead of engagement announcements but I was confusing so sorry about that -- I won't send engagment announcements but the save the dates (at the appropriate time)
  
  I don't think there will be a way around the wedding announcements since so many people won't be invited and I think people who know me won't think I am being gift grabby.
  
  Thank you ladies, you helped me out a lot

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• rlavach member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_check-or-add-to-my-etiquette-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2f3245ce-f7c7-4139-9bda-685e3c282b7fPost:494a1720-5e8d-4d41-a67b-16ce9c376d56">Re: Check or add to my etiquette please :)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Thank you :)  Our wedding is super small closest family and friends.  My side is over 100 and his is 5 without friends so we are keeping the guest list to 50 to 80. Immediate family (25) Aunts and Uncles only, no cousins, no coworkers, and only closest friends (10 which includes their partners/guests. I guess I was thinking more of save the dates instead of engagement announcements but I was confusing so sorry about that -- I won't send engagment announcements but the save the dates (at the appropriate time) :) I don't think there will be a way around the wedding announcements since so many people won't be invited and I think people who know me won't think I am being gift grabby. Thank you ladies, you helped me out a lot :)
  Posted by helleb[/QUOTE]
  While I know that it really depends on the person, I don't feel that 80 guests is 'small' or 'intimate.' To me, 10-20 guests is. If I invited all of my family & friends, we could easily have toppled 400. We had 78 guests and it was in a large ballroom. Definitely not small or intimate. We didn't send wedding announcements because I personally feel it's only appropriate when you do a very small wedding. 

  

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• helleb member

  

  July 2012

  Our immediate families alone are 25 (parents, sister/husbands & children) a wedding of 50 to 80 is intimate for us.  It depends on each person, their family and how they create their wedding.
  
  Thank you for your input.

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• melb2013 member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_check-or-add-to-my-etiquette-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2f3245ce-f7c7-4139-9bda-685e3c282b7fPost:2da580e2-722c-453f-8b83-720090a765a8">Re: Check or add to my etiquette please :)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Never send out engagement announcements!  They are in poor taste.  You may have an announcement printed in the newspaper. Engagement information on facebook is OK, but do not put wedding information on it. Wedding announcements are fine.  They do not mean that the recipient should send you a gift.
  Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>This. Exactly.</div><div>
  </div><div>I don't know why people don't like wedding announcements.  They used to be standard if you were having a small wedding.  We still have my grandparents and my parents wedding announcements- both had weddings with only immediate family.  They are not an announcement for presents, just letting your friends and family know that you are married.  Perfectly within the boundaries of proper etiquette. </div><div>
  </div><div>Edit: Missed OP's post about the size of her wedding.  Definitely think announcements are redundant if you are not having a small wedding with immediate family only.
  
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