Hi Everyone! I'm Taccara (tah-car-ah) and I live in Atlanta. This post is a mixture of venting and WTH and responses/advice/virtual slaps in the face are all welcome!
I've been dating Brian for a while and we've pretty much "known" we were gonna end up married from the start. We're both divorced and have a good foundational understanding of what we want/need in a spouse--clearly our ex's weren't IT
so here's the deal (short and sweet I hope)...He's VERY close with his mother who is a bit old skool and traditional(in a religious sense as well as social sense) and am..NOT. I'm fun, outgoing, non-discriminating, and I LOVE people. She's reserved, quiet, religious and a bit judgmental. We're best friends and because he works closely with his mother, she has been a "friend" to him as well as his partner in business. SO her being threatened by a relationship with a strong woman combined with him not wanting to offend her with this relationship has put me in the middle of a seemingly impossible situation. We have tentatively set a date for July of 2011, picked out rings, and he has even gone as far as to suggest we have a destination wedding in Jamaica. Great! BUT the catch is that we have to wait to announce it to the public until he formally announces it to his mother FIRST...
It has been 5 weeks since all this came about and while I understand he can't be rushed into all of this--HE BROUGHT IT UP. And with a date in July, it's not THAT far away and we'd have to give our invitees time to plan for a weekend in Jamaica....Im not freaking out...just concerned.
SOO....A) I don't want this to be the beginning of a relationship that is governed by his mother and I've made that perfectly clear.
I REALLY don't want to start driving myself crazy over the lack of time I will have to plan a destination wedding--regardless of how small, I have 2 children and an aging mother to take into consideration with this planning. AND C) I am secretly worried that if his mother doesn't approve, it won't happen...
Ok...have at it ladies. Cheers!