B list?

Re: B list?

• adamar15 member

  

  July 2012

  It's rude.  The "planning a wedding is stressful" excuse is lame.  Can you upgrade something else (apps, bar, etc.) to meet the minimum? 

  
  
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• Megbo2012

  

  July 2012

  LL, can you add things to your package to meet that minimun? Higher grade of alcohol, an ice cream bar, etc? That might be the easiest way, without offending guests, since you were planning on spending that amount anyways, you can have fun adding unique things. 

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• ootmother2 member

  

  July 2012

  B lists are poor etiquette regardless of those invited minded being seccond choice or not.
  
  Sorry

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• aragx6 member

  

  July 2012

  Most places will let you upgrade something instead -- ask about adding appetizers or upgrading the bar. As everyone else has said and as I suspect you know, B lists are just plain rude.

  

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• ericaandtom2012 member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  Another option is to add a late night snack like pizza or sliders and fries.  

  
  

  ETA: I missed that the RSVP deadline is still a week away.  Plenty of people wait until the last minute to send in their RSVPs.  Don't do any additions until the deadline has passed and you've contacted all of the stragglers.

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• MrsL2014 member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_b-list-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3aa08546-0d83-4ae9-b4fc-cd240dcc1c32Post:4d2a2919-1551-4664-98e1-254dcfa5ee51">B list?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Our original guest list was over 200 people, but since my fiance has such a large family with lots of cousins, we only invited his first cousins. Our venue requires a minimum amount of money to be spent. We invited 180 people to our wedding, but need 160 to meet the minumum requirement. With one week left for the RSVP deadline it doesn't look like we will meet that requirment. My fiancee seems to think its ok to call a few of his cousins and explain that our original guest list was too large and we had to cut it down. But now that we have the extra room we wanted to extend the inviation to them. We wouldnt't have time to send out another inviation. We would actually have to call them. Getting feed back from a few close freinds, some people said they would be offended in this circumstance, others said they would understand because they know how planning a weddng is stressful. Especially the guest list.
  Posted by LL921[/QUOTE]
  
  our venue says an amount of money needs to be spend, not amount of people. I would talk to your venue and see what they say, but like others said, people will get offended.
  
  If you still come up short, then I would probably just pay for the amount of 160 people even if you only have 150, and see if they can box up the left over food for you to take home since

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• achiduck member

  

  July 2012

  Ditto PP's it's really rude and will make people feel bad that they weren't invited in the first place.
  
  Either upgrade something to meet the cost requirements or as Edie said allow singles to bring a date.

  
  

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• wrigleyville member

  

  July 2012

  I would wait until the deadline has passed and you've called the people who didn't send in their RSVP.

  
  

  Once you have that final number, talk to your venue about upgrading options. It's pretty easy to make up the difference if you add an appetizer, upgrade to a premium bar, or add a late-night snack.

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