April 2013 Weddings

RSVP traffic jam?

Haven't gotten many RSVPs over the last week :-(  Early April ladies, did you find that there were a couple of weeks where you didn't get many either?

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    [QUOTE]Haven't gotten many RSVPs over the last week :-(  Early April ladies, did you find that there were a couple of weeks where you didn't get many either?
    Posted by lch0708[/QUOTE]

    I'm an early April lady and we've definitely been in a lull the past week. Before that it was about 4 a day. Now it's been 1 maybe 2 a day. And we have about half to go still. Weirdly enough, it's a lot of our VIPs missing. I think we shot ourselves in the foot by making them mad-libs style fill in the blanks. Apparently a lot of people want to find the "perfect" wording before sending it back.

    Anyway, regardless, I think it's normal. You'll have people who will be very good at being on it immediately and others who will wait to the last second. The middle will be less common.
  • We started out strong getting like 5-10 back daily, but these past few days it is down to 1-2 only! The 11th is our RSVP by date and we still have a lot that we haven't heard from!
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  • We got a ton in the first 2 weeks, practically nothing in the middle and about 10 in the last week and a half.  We are still missing 3 and our deadline was last week.  They will come in a couple weeks.
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  • Well, I'm glad I needed an early RSVP date, then, haha.  We've gotten about half of our RSVPs back, also.  The funny thing is that we've gotten back all of the ones we were confident would be yes's/no's, like the bridal party, immediate family and super close friends.  Basically, no surprises so far.

    I just want to come home and see about 5 envelopes sitting in my mailbox, haha.  The first week was awesome, I think I got about 15-20 of them from people that had already made their minds up as soon as the Save the Dates went out.

    I'm also wondering if the sequestration had a lot to do with some of our guests.  We are both active duty so I'm sure some people were/are still on standby to figure out how flexible their travel/leave plans are now.
  • Yesterday was 1 week since mine went out and I only got back 9 so far out of the 90 sent. I hope they start pouring in soon!
  • I think it is totally normal.  We received a lot at first and now we are lucky if we get one a day.
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  • I am very happy that we had an early RSVP date.  Feb 28th for an April 18 wedding.  We have to have the final number by March 8, can change until the 15th but then it is final final.  We still have 10 people that are dodging our calls.  I wish we could just uninvite them.  I am sure if they are rude enough to not answer, they are rude enough to show up and expect a meal and some alcohol! 
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  • edited March 2013
    I'm hoping so. I don't understand what the issue is. It is so rude not to RSVP, and it's not that hard to do when you're given a SASE to send it back in. We have 23 RSVPs for a total of 44 guests that we still haven't received. One of them is from THE BEST MAN and his family. Seriously? I know they're coming, but I will not mark them down until I receive thier RSVP. Am I really going to have to make 23 phone calls to figure out if these people are coming or not?

    I've threatened to stop inviting chronic non-RSVPers before when I hosted dinner parties. Do not test me, people!
  • Yeah, it was really annoying waiting for them all to come in. We got quite a few at first, then like 2 weeks of nothing, maybe 1 or 2 total, and then a bunch right before the deadline. The annoying thing was that most of the last ones to come in were from people we see often and who verbally told us they were coming, but just forgot to put it in the mail... Why did I bother putting stamps on all of them in that case?
  • We had a 2 week lull where NO RSVPs came back. We just got 2 on Friday and 1 on Saturday. None yesterday and the deadline is this Saturday. We're still missing about 15-20 RSVPs.

  • I got a lot last week (the week after invites were sent) but didn't get anything yesterday. It would have been a sad trip to the mailbox if it wasn't for the unexpected shower gift that happened to be there.


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  • I sent our invites 2 weeks ago today and they've been pretty consistent 1-3 a day since then. Last Thursday we had 6 in the mail which was awesome. It's basically all been people I was pretty positive were coming and our declines we also knew about. We sent 71 invites and have gotten back 25 so far with 1 month from today being the RSVP date. I have a feeling by next week I'll be in the dead zone where people are just totally not even thinking about RSVPing if they haven't already. It's really annoying. FSIL hasn't even sent hers in yet... idk what exactly she's waiting for seeing as shes a BM lol. Let's get a move on people!!
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    [QUOTE]I sent our invites 2 weeks ago today and they've been pretty consistent 1-3 a day since then. Last Thursday we had 6 in the mail which was awesome. It's basically all been people I was pretty positive were coming and our declines we also knew about. We sent 71 invites and have gotten back 25 so far with 1 month from today being the RSVP date. I have a feeling by next week I'll be in the dead zone where people are just totally not even thinking about RSVPing if they haven't already. It's really annoying. FSIL hasn't even sent hers in yet... idk what exactly she's waiting for seeing as shes a BM lol. Let's get a move on people!!
    Posted by allychase[/QUOTE]


    Yeah, I have pretty much the same deal.  It's funny because I do have a few friends that were gung-ho on coming and now their cards are nowhere in the mail system, lol.  I know that my wedding isn't the center of their universe and it's not even the center of my own universe but I would like to know how much money we'll have left after the wedding to put towards a house, lol :-P
  • edited March 2013
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    [QUOTE]I sent our invites 2 weeks ago today and they've been pretty consistent 1-3 a day since then. Last Thursday we had 6 in the mail which was awesome. It's basically all been people I was pretty positive were coming and our declines we also knew about. We sent 71 invites and have gotten back 25 so far with 1 month from today being the RSVP date. I have a feeling by next week I'll be in the dead zone where people are just totally not even thinking about RSVPing if they haven't already. It's really annoying. FSIL hasn't even sent hers in yet... idk what exactly she's waiting for seeing as shes a BM lol. Let's get a move on people!!
    Posted by allychase[/QUOTE]

    I hear ya - We are still missing responses from 2 Bridesmaids (one is FI's sister) and 4 Groomsmen, including the best man...


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  • This post must have been a sign to my guests because I got two more RSVPs today, 6 no's.  I know this sounds bad but woohoo!!!  
  • My RSVP date is 3/15 for 4/13 wedding.... the last week we have only gotten 2 back...2 in a week!!!! I'm glad I left room for tracking people down, looks like were going to need it =)
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    [QUOTE]Yeah, it was really annoying waiting for them all to come in. We got quite a few at first, then like 2 weeks of nothing, maybe 1 or 2 total, and then a bunch right before the deadline. The annoying thing was that most of the last ones to come in were from people we see often and who verbally told us they were coming, but just forgot to put it in the mail... Why did I bother putting stamps on all of them in that case?
    Posted by tiny speck[/QUOTE]


    This!!!! Is why I only gave two options for RSVP...online or by phone. I have helped plan one too many weddings where response envelopes were sent stamped and never returned, too broke for all that. Etiquette or not, oh well.
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