ok so heres the story...througout my planning process my mom has been very weird. she started off ok and was suggesting things for me blah blah blah you know how it goes...well when i didnt go with anything she suggested she kind of got angry.
anyways, now i am dealing with a mother shut down. she no longer seems to want to talk about the wedding. everytime it gets brought up she shuts down. she was almost emotionless during dress shopping, didnt say anything until i fished for it.
shes constantly complaining about wearing a mother of the bride dress and how shes going to look like "a fat cow" yet she doesnt want me to help her find anything.
she doesnt want to talk about a shower and my fiances mom is trying to figure out details but my mom is shooting everything down. she doesnt seem to understand that you cant invite 70 people to a shower and expect them all to fit in our house in november (if the weathers bad). i dont want my guests sitting on a floor at my shower! no way!
she is constantly insulting things i want to do saying things like "thats ridiculous" or telling people "you have to keep in mind that this is ambers wedding". (sometimes i wish shed take her own advice)
she got mad and told me that a shower isnt in her budget (what?!?!?!) and when i suggested that she talk to my godmother, who has not been in my life since i was 5 and is trying to make a comeback, she flipped out. she and my dad are paying for the reception (venue, food) and she keeps making comments like "what do you think? that were made of money?" when the whole time, they had the option to say no and i couldve found something else. she doesnt seem to understand that my fiance and i are spending just as much (if not, more) as they are. she only sees what she wants to see.
so ive been stressed out with her and taking a break from planning, but the other day, my future sister in law said "yeah, when she said 'they should just elope' i knew we were in trouble" so i was like "what? when did she say that?" and she tells me oh at the sox game (meaning literally right after we got engaged!!!) seriously???? you cant be happy for us and say congrats, you go straight to "oh they should just elope"? thats ridiculous! thanks mom!