i have a friend who is getting married in June. Her wedding is about 21/2 hours away and we have would have to pay for the hotel for the weekend, which is cool because we always knew that. She emails us about 2 weeks ago saying she wants to go away for a bachelorette party which would be memorial day weekend and two weeks before the wedding. Also, the bridal shower is the weekend before the wedding which us bridesmaids are all chipping in for. It's a lot going on at one time mind you we still have to pay for shoes, alterations for our dresses...hair makeup nails and feet, hotel for weekend of wedding,etc. I told her she can do whatever she wants but I won't be able to participate because financially it's a lot. I still have monthly bills at home that need to be taken care of. I told her with everything happening at one time that it's a lot to ask of us to put out an extra $200-$300 two weeks before the wedding, and that a holiday weekend getaway is doing the most. So with that said told me I was inconsiderate and not taking her feelings into consideration. Where I fell as though it's the other way around and she not considering the big picture in the situation. I think a bachlorette party getaway should happen at least 2 months before the wedding so it's gives everybody time to recover financially. Do you agree or disagree?