My fiancee and I are planning a wedding for November of this year. Initiallly, it started off to be just family, with only about 20 people to be invited. However, my grandparents are anti-gay marriage and may not come, and her family is not all that supportive either. I'm wondering if we should just save ourselves the money, hassle, and heartache of trying to plan a wedding and elope instead so that there are no expectations of people to come. We could have a party to celebrate (as was our plan anyway) for extended family and friends the following summer without the pressure of the 'wedding' title associated with it.